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Could my boyfriend be infertile?

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HMum19 · 28/03/2023 14:36

So I have been off contraception since August, I was on the pill since the January before (Jan - August) and I came off it due to it not agreeing with me.
Me and boyfriend haven't intentionally been "trying" but I haven't wanted to try anything else contraception wise, and my boyfriend has been fine with me going all natural and we have said whatever will be, will be kind of thing.
However, although we aren't intentionally "trying", my boyfriend is now wondering (and I think worrying) that he might not be working properly down below, as it's been 7 months now of sleeping together with no contraception. I have a child from a previous relationship so I assume everything is still working okay for me, but who knows. We are still young, 28, so I won't lie it has crossed my mind the last few months but I haven't brought it up to him as like I said, we aren't intentionally trying so didn't want to say anything to worry him.
I am wondering though, is 7 months classed as a long time to be "trying" for a baby, without falling pregnant? When does it get to the stage that you'd be classed as struggling to conceive?

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KoraPersefone · 28/03/2023 15:57

Usually 2 years is the most time you should wait to see what happens. 7 months are not that long. 1-2 years is the basic. 6 months over 35. We have been ttc for over a year and nothing yet, it's probably me as I have a low reserve so we are already waiting for the clinic to call hoping to start ivf (but we are over 35). You are still young and doesn't mean anything that you had a child already, problem could be yours as well as his unfortunately. Wait a year and maybe start some blood test, are you sure you are ovulating? Since you are not keeping track or trying, it could even be ovulation problem or just you didn't have intercourses in the right days who knows.

Imisscoffee2021 · 31/03/2023 06:56

No way to know without doing a semen analysis, if you don't want to wait for the NHS recommendation of 12 months it's about £100 to £150 for one privately.

My husband had one after 8 months TTC and found out his parameters were too low for natural conception, and subsequently found he had a physiological cause for that. For us it meant IVF and come May (2 years since starting to TTC) I will be 31 weeks pregnant. I couldn't have lasted 2 years TTC month by month!

Most likely nothing wrong with bf but if you don't want to wait and it'll help you both mentally to know either way (as if everything's healthy it would be a relief at least) then I really recommend a semen analysis, it saved us months and months of fruitless trying.

TunicFox · 01/04/2023 04:18

It could be worth him getting a semen analysis done, however, as PP said, it could equally be something with you.

It may also be about how often you are having sex and timings. There is still only a 10-20% chance of getting pregnant each month, even if you time it perfectly. So really, 7 months is not that unusual especially if you haven't been paying any attention to timings.

If you've decided that you actually are TTC now, you need to start tracking your cycles and having sex at the right time of the month, and see how it goes from there. You can get ovulation test sticks quite cheaply which will tell you when you've ovulating. Good luck.

TunicFox · 01/04/2023 04:21

Also, given that the pill can take a good few months to come out of your system, you might have only actually been fertile for a few months - so you may not have actually had 7 months where you could get pregnant. You might only have had 3 or 4.

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