IVF with ex and needing it again with new! Advice please

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Hi everyone,

I've been around for a while or was back in the day when I had been going thru IVF with my exh, we split up two years ago and I've got a new partner. My ex had MFI and my partner & myself believe that he has MFI as well due to past medical history. The conundrum I'm dealing with right now is that we'd be eligible in a year to go for IVF however I don't know what the hospitals protocol is in regards to this as my exh and I have 2 embryos still, I know that he wouldn't be happy for these to be used and quite frankly either would I, would be very strange to carry my exh baby and raise it with my new partner. Does anyone know what happens when it comes to this? Can I not get IVF due to already having embryos in storage right now? What is the protocol?

Hey OP, am I correct in assuming your previous round wasn't successful? How many rounds are you entitled to in your area, and do you have any left?

For unusual situations like this, you often have to apply/appeal to the CCG directly, so I think it's hard to say whether or not you would get IVF. My guess would be that if you are eligible for another round, you stand a decent chance of being allowed, even with the two in storage.

@MinPinSins thank you for commenting 😊 yes, the round was unsuccessful unfortunately. I'm entitled to 3 rounds of IVF and done one. From the information on the NHS website it says that you aren't entitled to it unless all embryos in storage have been used up but surely they can't expect you to do that with someone your no longer with? I wasn't sure if they would have to be destroyed prior to starting again or not. That worries me just on the off chance I couldn't get any again but I'm realistic to the fact that my ex would want this.

I'm sorry it didn't work last time. I agree that it would be crazy for them to expect you to use those embryos. I think because it is a unique situation, you'd have to check with the CCG. If it was me, I would ask now, even though you won't be starting for a year, because you don't want things delayed in a year when you are ready to start.

Thank you. I don't know how to contact them. Would I contact the clinic that I was using and get the information from them or is there a way to contact them directly? I'm in Scotland.

@MinPinSins