Should I have councelling before deciding to be childless ?

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Hi , thanks for reading ! I am 30 years old and I have had 6 early misscarrige in a row . 5 natural 1 IVF loss , I have no children and I’m going through ivf at the moment . Every single test I have done under recurrent misscarrige has come back normal including genetics . The only problem I have is the shape of my uterus which is actuate shape ( heart shaped ! . They say it doesn’t affect the pregnancy’s . But Iv lost so many so it makes me think it does affect my pregnancy’s . Doctors seem to brush it off when I mention it and I’m so tired of fighting with NHS doctors to maybe do surgery on it to fix the septum .
I am tired and exhausted trying to find another answer to my losses .
How do I accept childless future !? Is it easy ? Iv never had councelling as I am very strong minded and can deal with it myself , but I’m not sure if I should have councelling if I decide to close the door to ever having a child and just give up now !? What do you guys reccommend ? I’m just a bit confused and angry and lost with what I want . I feel like giving us seems an easy option . Thanks if you did read it all sorry it’s long ☹️😞

Sorry OP, that must be tough. I'm sure you've been told this a lot, but I would say at 30 there is no need to make a decision about having to give up for good.. you've got years left to see what happens/continue to hassle NHS for the surgery (if needed) or indeed to save up money for private investigations. Perhaps therapy might be helpful to figure out some options and how you feel.
I wouldnt have given up at 30 .. maybe just take a break from TTC for 6 months and see how you feel again afterwards..

Hi OP,

I have the same sized uterus. I have two DDs, had the first at 33, the second at 38. If you're still getting pregnant, I wouldn't necessarily give up based on the shape of your uterus alone, but maybe take a break. I did have placenta previa w/ the first, but it resolved.