What did you do after multiple failed transfers?

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Hi,

As the title suggests, what did you do after multiple failed transfers? We have unexplained infertility.
We have one son, from our EC in 2019. We have had 3 (failed/mc) transfers since him and no embryos left now. If we do more IVF we are likely to change clinic, largely because my husband is so cross at them for just letting us put more embryos in without suggesting further tests etc and so wasted thousands.
What did you do? Did you just keep going? Get more tests? If so, which ones?
I am 34 and our EC was when I was 31. We had 5 blasts out of 8 fertilised.

Thank you for reading.

We kept going and going, cycle after cycle, until we had taken out bank loans, re mortgaged, built up credit card debt and my MH was destroyed. We spent around £35,000.
I will never get over all the MC’s, failed cycles and misery. We continued on for nearly a decade. I was 29 when we had our first cycle.
I wish I had been happy to accept how lucky we had been to have our first miracle baby, rather than feeling I was missing out not having another, but I still feel so desperately sad.

I looked into microbiome type stuff... took antibiotics, probiotics and the next transfer worked (twins!) but could have been a coincidence. You can do an era Emma Alice or alternative less invasive tests

Sorry to hear about your failed transfers - ivf is so tough!

I think I would be tempted to try another fresh round. I’ve never been in the situation of having any blasts to freeze but I was told that often there will only be 1 or 2 viable embryos (which also implant) from every round, regardless of how many eggs are collected/blasts are made.

I suppose my point is, at this stage you don’t know whether the issue is that the blasts were non viable or whether it’s an implantation problem. At 34 you still have ‘young’ eggs and a fresh transfer might show you the best one for transfer.

Alternatively you could ask a new clinic for some guidance on what tests might be useful before starting a fresh round - perhaps genetic testing of embryos and/or Emma Alice testing?

Whatever you decide I wish you every success for the future xxx

@Goodywhoshoes I’m really sorry to hear about your long ivf journey. The constant cycle of hope/disappointment/misery is awful and I can fully empathise with what a tough journey it is.

i conceived my son after 2 rounds of ivf and am now trying for a second, facing a lot of the same feelings/experiences you describe. On the one hand I want to enjoy the child I have but the longing for another never goes away and I’m finding it really hard to make a call on when to stop and accept what I have. The problem with ivf is that it always offers hope and it’s hard not to keep going. I think it’s normal to always have sadness about not being able to grow the family you wanted. Life is very unfair. But I’m learning as best I can to have gratitude for the wonderful child I do have Xx

@Goodywhoshoes the experience is so hard isn't it. It's just so easy to keep going, especially when we have proof that it has worked for us.

@whatcangowrong thank you, I have been looking into the ERA tests and if we do ivf again it is probably worth getting it!

@Blacksheep33 thank you for your kind message. That's interesting about the number of embryos per EC, in my mind that makes sense as some, I would expect, to not be right genetically. Those feelings you mention, I completely get them. I really hope you are successful for a 2nd soon and you don't have to go through the ordeal again. You're right that the pain of failure after having one isn't the same but it is still sad and disappointing and definitely brings up those old feelings x