Really Disappointed with Day 3 Call Post Egg Collection

[BorisKarloff]

Hi all - first time poster although I have been a lurker for years.

My husband and I have been ttc for 4 years. I’m currently 41. I fell pregnant in May just before ivf was due to start. We were amazed and so happy. Unfortunately it ended in a mmc at 9 weeks. It was a horrifying experience.

Fast forward to now. I had my egg collection on Thursday where they got 12. On my day one call I was told 10 had fertilised which I was really happy about. Today on day 3 I’ve been told there are only 2 x 7 cell and 1 x 5 cell embryos still going. She didn’t mention what stage the others were at.

Im booked in for a 5dt on Tuesday but I can’t help but feel really sad that my embryos might not survive till then. I’m feeling so low. This year has been the worst. I’ve been trying not to get my hopes up but it’s hard.

I guess I’m just looking for some positivity from some other ladies that have been in a similar situation.

thanks x

Hi!!
I also felt similar as our numbers dropped off really quickly. I got 17 eggs, 7 fertilised, day 5 there were 2 blastocysts- one poor quality , one good quality. I didn't have high hopes really because even the good quality one wasn't the top top grade. We didn't get anything for the freezer either to "try again" and only one round on the nhs.
Well that little embryo stuck and he's now 10 months napping on my bed!!!
Please don't give up hope. I've been in the pits longing for my baby and sometimes I still can't believe he is real.
Good luck, praying for you x

Oh @lottie198 - thanks so much for your message. You’ve really made me feel a bit more hopeful about it all and congratulations.

It’s such a rollercoaster of highs and lows. One minute I feel I’m holding it all together pretty well then the next I’m crumbling.

Hopefully it’ll all go ahead tomorrow and that I have a little fighter like yours x

@BorisKarloff Honestly it really only takes one. I literally cried before the transfer because I though we haven't even got a second chance if this one doesn't work!
I have hope for you. Please be kind to yourself xx

Hey Op. I'm 41 and my last cycle they collect 10 eggs, 5 fertilised, 3 were still going at day 3 and there were 2 blasts by day 5. Dr transfered in both embryos. I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant.

What I would say is don't get too downhearted if the first cycle doesn't work. The reality for most women (expecially those over 40) is that it may take a few cycles. For me it was 2 cycles and 4 embryos for an eventual BFP.

Thanks @lottie198. You really are giving me hope!

I suspect I’ll be an emotional mess tomorrow. Got an acupuncture session booked for before. Hoping that’ll chill me out a bit.

Hi @Bryterlayter1

Thanks so much for your reply. I was feeling so down last night about it all so I means a lot to hear some positive stories for ladies that have been there. Congratulations :)

My worry is this is our only NHS shot and I’m not sure we’ll be able to afford private. I’ve not looked into coats but I imagine it’ll be around 7-8k for a cycle??

@BorisKarloff yes, I'd say 7k-8k a cycle is a fair estimate for most clinics (that would include the drugs) some of the specialist clinics cost more (argc is about 12k a cycle). We paid privately for all ours and I'd say we spent the better part of 20k for pre treatment testing and two cycles. I'm in a same sex couple so we also had to pay for sperm, presumably you won't have that cost.

I think there are finance options for fertility treatment. We remortgaged to afford ours. However, taking on debt for treatment is a highly personal choice.

@Bryterlayter1

Apologies about the late reply. I’ve been a bit of a mess recently.

Sounds like a scary amount of money but I know I’d try find a way if we need to go down that route.

My transfer day was Tuesday. I cried all morning as I was so sure they’d call to cancel. They didn’t. Got to the hospital and they said they had a wee bean to transfer. I’m so unbelievably thankful and shocked. Got a surprise call the next day too to say they had a little hatching bean which they’ll freeze. Think I just felt maybe being 41 meant I was clutching at straws but hearing from ladies like yourself and knowing there are ladies out there older than us who have been successful gives me hope. All the best to you :)

That's amazing you have had a transfer and another in the freezer. Very much hoping this one works for you.

Thank you very much @LongerthanMrTicklesarms Also I love your name 😂

Honestly, I’ve read many many threads over the years like this which ended up with a live birth. Hang in there!

For the record I’m someone who always gets seemingly great numbers at every stage, yet still can’t seem to get there. It really isn’t just a numbers game.

Such great news!! I was hopeful for you 🙏🙏

@BorisKarloff hope you are keeping as calm as anyone could do in the TWW.

My username actually relates to the whole infertility journey, I know it doesn't make proper sense but we were trying for so long, I didn't even want to measure it in months and years any more so longer than Mr Tickle's arms... now having a baby in the next few months, if that gives any hope. I'm a similar age to you.

How are things @BorisKarloff ?

@LongerthanMrTicklesarms

The wait had been brutal. I felt calm for about a day then it descended into anxiety central. It’s a great name and you have given me hope so thank you very much. I’ve never felt old until fertility became all consuming :)

Thanks to both you and @lottie198 for checking in. I go for my Beta test tomorrow.
I caved and tested yesterday but I threw away the test as I just didn’t want to see another negative. Looked in the bin later, as you do and I noticed a second line. Faint but definitely there. I took another test and again it was there.

I took another this morning and again it’s there but not super dark so I don’t want to get excited incase it’s a chemical. Ever since my miscarriage I’m frightened to be excited about a future pregnancy which makes me sad. I’ve attached a wee pic.

fingers crossed 🤞

Arreghh this is so exciting ! I was so hopeful for you and had a good feeling. I'm praying all is well for you. The anxiety is normal, it's awful. I have never experienced loss but I was anxious my whole pregnancy. How are you feeling? X

Hurrah!

Thanks @AsIfByMagic123 and thanks @lottie198.

My 9DP5DT Beta came back positive and at 64. I can’t believe it. I’m a bit concerned that the number is lower than what I’ve seen other ladies posting online but I’m trying to stay positive. My 6 week scan is booked in for the 8th Dec.

I’ve been feeling a bit off though and I’m insanely bloated. They did a scan and said I have OHSS as there is some fluid sloshing around in my abdomen. Pregnancy hormone set it off seemingly. I’m on blood thinner injections and I need to pee in a measuring jug 😂 I’m going back to the hospital on Monday so they can see if it’s easing off.

I feel excited one minute then feel bad and annoyed at myself. I’m over analysing every sensation and I’m POAS all the time which is silly because I’ve had to bump my fluid intake up to 3l a day so the results don’t look strong - I still do it though. Madness!!

Hope you guys are all well and thanks for being supportive x

Sounds really promising... don't get bogged down by numbers.. I didn't even have a beta test. Just home pregnancy tests. I also had OHSS , I was actually really poorly in and out of hospital a few times. Full of fluid and my ovaries swelled to 11cm! I was in agony. Luckily by about 7 weeks pregnant all symptoms went. The HCG hormone deffo triggered it. Get some electrolyte drinks such as lucosade sport, they will really help. Hope you feel a bit better soon and good luck with your scan. I couldn't wait and had an early private one at 6 weeks x

This is in no way a faint line. Congratulations!

Hope things are going well @BorisKarloff

Hi @LongerthanMrTicklesarms

I’ve been meaning to update the thread but I was a bit scared to.

I’m 13 weeks exactly today. I can’t quite believe I’m saying that. Went for our 12 week scan last week and we seen a wee acrobat with the hiccups which was so amazing and very surreal!! Screening tests came back low chance which is great but I’ve booked a private Harmony test for my own peace of mind.

I’ve been struggling a little with worrying it’ll all just end but I think i’m getting better and allowing myself to enjoy it all.

I’m still pretty bloated and I get tired and feel a little sick at times but symptoms haven’t been too bad. Come off the fragmin injections next week which will be nice.

How about you? When is your due date?

@BorisKarloff sorry for the delay, I was so pleased to read your wonderful update. Hope the Harmony test has provided extra reassurance and that you are feeling well.
I should meet my acrobat soon, just finished work for maternity leave this week. Excited and nervous!