i started a job in healthcare a few months ago and have been quite taken aback about how certain staff members feel the need to comment on my lack of child bearing. I look young for my age so it’s not really said until people realise my age (I’m 34). So far since starting I’ve been on the receiving end of about 4 discussions about how my fertility is already declining, how I must please my man and do what god wants me to do and so on… hate to say it but each time I get these lectures it always women of the same culture (no need to say which one). They speak to me as if they are trying to give me genuine advice, and I don’t believe they mean to be patronising but it is rather instrusive as I actually have fertility problems (known since I was a teenager) and really not in a major rush to do anything about it just yet as I just had a career change in the last year so financially not ready yet.
witty mumsnetters, please give me something to silence these unsolicited conversations in the most professional way possible as I am mostly above these women management wise and need to set good examples etc (not their actual manager though thank god!)
ps. I even tried telling one staff member that I can’t concieve naturally and instead of just dropping it, she told me ‘there’s things you can do about that.’