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My life feels like it's on hold

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PM86 · 04/10/2022 12:40

Apologies in advance for the long post. I just need to get it out of my system..

We started TTC in 2019. Nothing happened and so I underwent some investigation in 2020 which confirmed PCOS. Had some further issues and a scan in 2021 confirmed a huge dermoid cyst the size of a melon. Was told that needed to be removed. I'm still waiting for surgery but my cycles have become regular and I seem to be ovulating.

However, husband has had some issues for a while. He was eventually diagnosed with depressed and has been treated. He seems a lot better in himself and is still getting some help. He has been suffering from ED for a while and finally managed to get some help. The medication he is on however means he suffers from delayed ejaculation (if he can at all) even with viagra etc.

We went private and were told we'd need IVF but they wouldn't do anything until the cyst was removed. I was told today it'll be another year until the NHS can remove it. Its giving me some pain but its not deemed urgent.

I feel with everything that's gone on I just can't win. I'm not the person I was before all this and I'm too scared to go to the GP in case they think I'm just time wasting. (I've changed GP but my last practice was so dismissive). I'm anxious all the time?!? Struggling to sleep and have lost interest in everything. I used to love my job and now I struggle to get motivated. Its even harder with everyone else popping babies out left right and centre.

I suppose I just wanted to put it all out there and see if anyone had some advice. If you've made it this far- thank you! 😊

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Imisscoffee2021 · 05/10/2022 22:30

Heya,

What alot to deal with, I know exactly how you feel about life being on hold, myself and ny husband have so much tied up with having a baby before we can move e on to a new area and new jobs it feels like we're in limbo! We've just tried to enjoy the time as it passes, and not mae everything about having a baby, while making sure we're trying everything for that to happen! We had IVF in August which wasn't successful but we have 5 frosties. If you can afford to, it nay be worth getting the cyst removed privately. We used some savings for a private op for my husband to try to fix his MFI before ivf, which didn't work unfortunately but we had to try. If we'd waited for NHS to operate we'd still be waiting

Imisscoffee2021 · 05/10/2022 22:30

Sorry sent too soon! Wishing you all the best on your TTC journey!

Minamina · 31/10/2022 17:59

I feel like this often. It comes in waves but I just try and understand that its temporary and accept/embrace my feelings. It only makes sense that when we're so emotionally overloaded our mood will change. it will get better. wishing you all the best
xx

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