The right time for IVF?

[naevo]

Hey, I have been ttc for 2 years now, bloods/scans/SA and HyCoSy have all come back fine however we seem to be dealing with unexplained secondary infertility. We have tried 3 rounds of Clomid and 3 rounds of letrozole.

Our next step will be IVF and we were wondering if we should just go straight for it or wait a while and see? We do have the funds although it will take all our savings and I'm really struggling mentally with the monthly negative tests but scared to replace that with the stress of IVF as it's also no guarantee.

Would you go ahead and waste no more time or wait? (My fertility consultant said he thinks it will happen for us naturally but it's a matter of when which is really messing with my head). Is 2 years long enough of trying? It feels like an eternity!

Everyone I see is convinced it will happen for us. 2.5 years of TTC and it mentally is not an option. Those feelings you have with the negative tests month after month are valid. If you feel that it is time to move on that is reason enough.

I will say IVF is not easy so I wouldn't go into it lightly and it also isn't a guarantee. 2 years and no live birth it is officially time to proceed to next steps. So if I were you I would do that. If you are going through NHS it will take a long time to get to the treatment part so sooner is better. If privately you may have more time.

I am on my second IVF cycle and 3rd transfer and I wish I had started sooner. I've also had to take mental health breaks it's been a whole year since my last transfer. We are also somewhat unexplained.

If I were you I would go to the next stage. Don't let anyone tell you to just keep trying - as if that is an easier choice. All the options we have at this point are hard.

@Hoping4baby21 thank you so much for your reply, it's exactly what I was hoping to hear as well I think.
That's is how I feel and I don't want to look back and wish I just started sooner although I completely understand won't be easy or guaranteed.
I'm currently trying to do as much research as I can, I like to know what to expect!

Hey there I just wanted to jump in on this. We had been trying for 18 months with no luck. Not even a sign of anything. We went for tests, did Timed Intercourse for 5 months. No joy. During the tests it was found I have mild PCOS.

We sat down with the consultant who basically laid it all out for us in black and white. Two years almost, no sign of pregnancy, time to look at next options. IVF and ICSI were put on the table. We opted for ICSI and now moving forward with that plan. All in all by the time we get going it will be 2.5 years. And we are relatively young at 29/31 with good health.

That’s all a long winded way of saying that tomorrow was never going to come for us. And I wish I had listened to my husband earlier when he wanted us to get tested much sooner e cause I believed it would happen.

If the option is there for you I wouldn’t hesitate. And make sure to look after yourself. It’s not an easy journey and you can lose yourself in it. My body hasn’t been my own for years now but I keep reminding myself that the potential end result will be so worth it. And if it never happens for us this way we know we have given it our all! 💐