Anyone who struggled to have their first, struggling to have their second?

[FizzyLizt]

Hoping to find people who can relate.

It took three years to have DD. PCOS, clomid, a couple of miscarriages. It's no surprise that we are struggling trying for a second. One miscarriage down already, got the clomid but a bit scared to go down that route as it feels like our only chance. The baby bombs are going off left right and centre too...

Anyone in a similar boat? Whatever the issues to get to where you are now?

Yes me. Recurring infertility. Our wee girl was born in 2018 after 2 years of trying and in the end ovulation induction with Gonal F worked. We've been trying for a sibling for 2.5 years, I've had a round of IVF and 3 transfers and so far no luck (I'm currently PUPO with transfer number 4 but I'm not feeling overly positive)

I've had some very dark times and have had two breaks from treatment to try to get my head in a better space. I'm really sorry you are going through this again, although it is different this time around, it is still horrendously difficult.

Yay for having someone in a similar boat! So sorry to hear how rough you have had it, though. It's a shit club to be in, isn't it?

Crossing all my fingers and toes that you stay pregnant, how long have you got to get confirmation either way?

I remember thinking that surely it would be easier the second time round already having one, but as you say, it's very different isn't it. That's largely why I started this thread, it's probably not a hugely big crowd for those who have struggled and know they probably will again. Which I guess is a good thing. But an isolating and lonely middle through for us.

I don’t know whether this will help, at all, but I’ve been trying for children since I was 33. I’m now 42 and have been pregnant twice in nine years.

It took me three years to conceive my first son (naturally), tried for two years afterwards and then moved to IVF, and had a second son. I’m now here, aged 42, trying to have a third child, and reading all the stuff about having children earlier than your 40s (I wish, I wish…)

I’m so sorry to hear about the miscarriages. One of the wonderful things about my situation is that I’ve been fortunate enough to never miscarry. Either way, sending hugs.

Hi Fizzy, I'm in the same boat. Had our first 3 years ago on our first IVF cycle. We've had 3 IVF cycles since then for no 2. The first failed, the second was an ectopic which resulted in a rupture, losing both tubes, surgery and drug treatment. The most recent was another ectopic which was treated with drugs. We have two frozen embryos left so will keep going with those but it's difficult to think about putting ourselves through all that pain again. We're also getting our heads around the idea that it just might not ever happen.
I'm so grateful to have our little one and it's definitely not the same as primary infertility but it's still really tough.