"Unexplained" successes

[bathbombaholic]

I've just started my period. 26 cycles and still not pregnant. I have been diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility and it's shit

Next step for me is IVF, just waiting on dates.

I need cheering up and would love to hear your positive stories of when your "unexplained" title changed to "mummy"

@bathbombaholic I was referred for IVF as unexplained but once I started treatment it became blatantly obvious that I have PCOS and for whatever reason this wasn't diagnosed by my local hospital or GP despite all if the tests.
I can't give you a success story - yet! I am 2 days past transfer but chuffed to have got to this point 🥰

I'm an "unexplained" mum after ICSI.

We started trying at 30 years old. 7 years later (after 2 losses), we got a BFP with our only embryo from our first ICSI cycle and DC is now here with us!

Don't let the "unexplained" label make you feel hopeless - push for investigations and treatment. Good luck!

Hi Op, we were unexplained as well trying for years and from our first round we had 5 eggs collected, 2 blasts, from first fresh transfer we had our baby, 1 blast in the freezer.

I know we are extremely lucky, but our doc said to look at unexplained diagnosis as a good thing.

Good luck to you Xx

Thank you for your replies and congrats to all! You give me hope 

@ChristmasJumpers please keep me updated with your journey. I'm rooting for you!

We were unexplained (although I did have a hydrosalapinx removed) and TTC for 5 years before successful first round IVF that resulted in DD then when she was 18 months DS was spontaneously conceived. Good luck x

@bathbombaholic thank you 🥰 I will

@TheArtfulScreamer1 amazing!! Congratulations! 😍😍

@bathbombaholic I'm also "unexplained" and will be starting first round of IVF next cycle/cycle after (yet to be confirmed due to Buserelin shortage). Don't be disheartened. You need to keep going, be strong! All the best to you X

@Tinkerbell098 thank you lovely! It's hard to remain positive sometimes you're right!

And oohhh how exciting for you! Please keep me updated with how you get on! Scary but very exciting times! X

We were unexplained. On our first round of nhs IVF we got nine eggs, of which five fertilised and two became five day blastocysts. One fresh transfer was successful, and years later the second, frozen one was too. I still can't believe our luck!

Hi

We were unexplained and TTC for a few years, on and off with life stresses getting in the way and some years choosing a holiday! and were very much of it happens it happens....

I hit 38 yrs and decided we really did want to try for Another rather than just if it happens, as it wasn't happening in the relaxed approach! And time wasn't on our side

Went down ivf route as I have a daughter already from previous relationship

First cycle didn't work, so had some further testing and ended up on a healthy kick diet and supplements just to give it our best chances really
Felt like we were taking control and no idea is diet played a part
Like to think it did

First cycle didn't work, 2nd did

I'm proof along with many others I'm sure that it can and does work

Sometimes not on the 1st and sometimes after a long journey/tests etc but main thing is you try not let it take over your life
Look after yourself and be very kind
For some reason, we tend to be hard on ourselves but actually we should be kind to ourselves and look after each other

Happy to answer any questions having gone through ivf myself x

I work in mental health and my favourite quote is
Never give up
Even when you want to/feel you should

Infertility is such a hard one for people to understand I feel unless you have gone through it yourself

I felt at one point out of my friendship circle I was the only one with problems
But everyone has problems
Don't compare and talk to people on here
I've felt it most supportive in my darkest moments

Life is a journey not a destination

I fell in to the trap of if I was pregnant I'd be ok and be envious of the pregnancy board for example but I've learnt going through years infertility and life stresses and now being pregnant doesn't come with a stress free journey, the worries just change, same thing happens when baby comes along

Anyway I've ranted without intention
Just a subject I'm quite passionate in and feel it's a taboo subject

For me I've shouted my infertility from
The roof tops (maybe a bit extreme) but have shared our story with friends family and a very lovely supported work family
And it's so empowering to take that control back which you lose so much power and control with infertility and ivf and it's similar to a gambling feeling, so for us we've been open and it's felt much more less lonely

Anyway happy to answer any questions at all

Xx

@Holidayworries lovely and absolutely the dream to have it work both times! So happy you got a good result!

@strawberrysummer19 love the quote and you're so right, I'm not ready to give up yet still got a long way to go.

I also get you re still worrying after your are successful- I say exactly the same thing to my partner all the time "if I could just fall pregnant I would be the happiest girl in the world and would love my life" but you're right- the worry would just shift: I've been so busy concentrating on getting pregnant I haven't even given a thought to if I did fall! The stress and anxiety would just change!

I haven't been as open as you, although family and close friends do know. Personally I wish I hadn't said anything as I feel every time I see people they are expecting me to announce it's finally happened. I feel like it's added pressure for me but each to their own with that one!

So happy to hear your story too, thank you for sharing. It's such a long journey and you never know when you will finally be able to take a turn and be successful. It gives me hope to hear others and gives me the energy to keep going. No doubt I will be asking you questions re IVF when the time comes x

I have TWO first time successes. Unexplained infertility. Got 10 embryos at the first try. Transferred one and it worked. Transferred another when my first was 16 months and and that worked too. Couldn't believe my luck after 10 years ttc (no exaggeration) with two different men (both with healthy sperm).

I'm still curious to know what my problem is, but whatever it is, it was easily overcome by IVF. I know I'm particularly lucky and not everyone with unexplained infertility will have such a positive experience, but as frustrating as the unexplained part is (I remember wanting there to be something we could 'fix') there are reasons to be hopeful that IVF will be the help you need.

Fingers crossed for you!