TW sexual assault, transvaginal scan

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I have a transvaginal scan next week. I am a survivor of sexual violence. I know this is needed so I will push through and get the scan done but I'm very worried about it. I've let the clinic know so that it's on my notes but I'm just wondering if there's other things I should be doing to prepare? Does anyone have anything that helped them if you were in a similar situation? I know I probably need to get a grip especially as we'll need IUI to conceive at the least but I'm still scared.

Thank you.

Hi there, I was in the same boat as you and hadn't told them at my first scan. Nothing went wrong and the nurse was nice but I found it upsetting (not sure why but I think maybe feeling out of control triggered me somehow!). By the second scan I had disclosed my history and the nurses couldn't have been more supportive. They took things really slowly and offered for me to hold the probe and do it myself. I chose not to but it meant a lot to me to have some choice over what happened. I think you've done the right thing telling them as they'll have had lots of training in how to support you. If you have any questions about the procedure feel free to ask! I hope this reply gives you some reassurance!

Thank you @tru, that is really reassuring! Hopefully it goes ok.

No problem! Also you absolutely don't need to get a grip. It's a difficult process for anyone to go through never mind with a history of trauma. I hope it goes well, and remember you can tell them you want to stop or take a break at any time 😊

First of all, go easy on yourself. You absolutely don’t need to “get a grip” and are entitled to all the feelings this brings up.

I have PTSD following two ERPCs (operations to removed retained tissue after failed pregnancies) and found myself extremely anxious going into scans, egg collection and my hysteroscopy.

Tapping was a useful coping mechanism but I tend to keep it simple with a few deep breaths, reminding myself of where I am - right here, in the present - and that I’m safe, strong and supported. It’s like a little n my mantra.

Sending lots of love and sorry you’ve had such a traumatic experience 💛