Testing after FET

[Buggy19]

Hello,

I’m meant to test tomorrow morning after having my first frozen embryo transfer (I had one good quality 5 day blast). I actually don’t think I can face it as I’m convinced it will be negative and I just can’t. Most people seem to be unable to wait! Anyone else delayed testing?

reason I think it’s failed is because I have suspected mild Crohn’s and last week (less than a week after the transfer) I had what I think are Crohn’s symptoms - constipation that resulted in horrible period like back pain, itchy fingers, sore ankles, which is what I’ve had in the past and assumed it is a flare but actually can’t be sure. I just felt like it was my stupid immune system killing my embryo. Ive had so many health and fertility set backs I just have no positivity left. I just can’t face the big white empty test window! I know I will lose it spiral while actually meant to be working!

this post is more me venting my true feelings as my husband just doesn’t get it, but would be interested to hear how others coped with testing day

x

Hi @Buggy19 I've never been an early tester and I get the dread before OTD too. I had an FET last week and it's my 8th transfer so I've had a lot of experience of negative tests.

It can feel safer to live in the world of not knowing but the way I've tried to think of it is that by the time you test, the embryo has either implanted or not. You testing is your brain getting to catch up and process something that your body decided a week earlier.

If the worst happens and it's negative, it's totally crushing - I really know this! But with that knowledge you can make decisions - you can stop any meds you're on, speak to your clinic, make a plan. It still hurts, but you have a way forward. Or you may want to pause and not plan for a while, give your brain a rest from IVF.

I hope you get your BFP, but there are lots of people here to vent to if it's not the news you want.

Thank you @lucymills1234 , you make a lot of sense! I didn’t test this morning because I was a mess but am accepting it now and definitely going to tomorrow. Your point about stopping the meds is a good incentive, they definitely have made the mental/emotional impact worse for me I think so looking forward to stopping.

I really wish for you to get your BFP too 🙏

Yes I can relate. The morning of my positive test I collected the sample on waking at about 6am thinking, ‘Dunno why I’m bothering. There’s no way this is going to be positive. It’s just going to be another flippin’ negative I don’t want to see.’ I decided I couldn’t face dipping the stick in and went back to bed.

I got up around 9 (it was a Saturday) and seriously I almost chucked the sample. But something stopped me and I just left it there on the side of the bath.

It was afternoon when I finally tested and even then I didn’t believe the result at first.

You are not alone.

Hi @Buggy19 i hope it all went well with your testing 🙏 please do keep us updated if you feel like you can share.

I am on day 7 of a FET and have been non stop scrolling and so tempted to test early as if it is negative would rather know now (but obviously clinic has advised a 14 day wait due to likelihood of false positives and false negatives) but this 2WW is killing me!