Is this feeling normal

[2021cath]

Hi everyone

So after a year waiting and having tests we finally have our consultation next week. All our tests have been fine just irregular periods but ovulate each month. So we're likely I'm the bracket of infertility. Is it normal to feel denial like we can't quite comprehend we need treatment just because it doesn't feel real.

Do people find it helps confiding in friends or family? We only confided in a couple of people and received a couple of rude comments tbh so now I'm weary!

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Hi there,

It is quite normal to be in denial, because fertility related issues are quite hard to handle emotionally and accept, especially when the root cause is yet to be found and everything looks good. Somehow, the general opinion is that getting pregnant and having children should be easy, but in fact it isn't easy at all.
I personally stopped sharing my infertility issues to most people, because I've been told a lot of hurtful and insensitive comments. I only have a couple pf close friends I confide to, and I chose the empathetic ones for that matter.

Unfortunately the whole journey is hard and you will need emotional support, but choose the ones that make you feel secure.

@2021cath Hi, I’m sorry you’re going through this it is tough.

I presume you’ve had day 2-5 and day 21 bloods. Is your appointment with the fertility clinic?

I definitely felt sadness knowing that we would need help. It’s distressing because you feel your body should just work properly. It wasn’t so much denial for me, although the vague hope every month that that could be it was pretty much denial now I think about it. It still happens now.

We’ve been trying for 3 years come July. I only recently told my sister, haven’t told anyone else. I don’t want the judgement or the questions. I don’t want to explain the process and I don’t want their opinions. My OH thinks it’s none of their business and when people come over I actually hide all the fertility stuff!!

we’ve been diagnosed with unexplained infertility. After my bloods (repeat ones because I have dodgy hormones!) and OH sperm analysis we had our appointment at the fertility clinic in March. They arranged for ultrasound on my womb/ovaries and a HSG. Then had another appointment in May to discuss results. I seem to be working down there lol, and have recently been referred for IVF.

Just know that we’ve all felt like this at some point, most of us still do. It’s incredibly difficult on your mental health and is a bit of a whirlwind with your emotions but this forum has really helped knowing I’m not alone with people that get it. I hope it helps you too.