Struggling to know how to deal with this. Been trying for a baby with my partner for three years. After some initial months of trying I had my bloods done and they were normal and the docs wouldn't do any more tests until my partner did a sperm sample. He dragged his heels on doing his tests for over a year and a half, which caused a lot of arguments. He has children already so I assumed the problem would be with me but I saw him as blocking me from getting my tests by failing to do his. I asked him many times whether he was dragging his heels because he didn't want more children and he assures me he does. Anyway, he finally did the test and it came back with zero sperm, which was a shock. He had to wait another three months for a repeat to confirm the diagnosis. We now looking at IVF with extraction and that's a whole load more waiting. It's been nearly three years now and we still haven't started the process in part because of how long it takes and in part because he doesn't seem to have any urgency despite me explaining to him that me being in my late thirties means on my side things could go down if we didn't hurry up (to put it into context I was 35 when I met him). What I'm now struggling to deal with is that while I remain childless he is having a great father, child relationship with his kids and often ditches plans with me to spend time with them. I find I can't reasonably challenge this with him as it'll be taken as stopping him from seeing his kids, all the while I have to suck it up and watch him play dad while I remain childless. It's devastating to be honest and I'm left wondering whether I'm going to miss out on my opportunity to have children by staying with him. I've talked to him many times about making it a priority and nothing changes. Anyone else out there in the same position?