Long term infertility

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Is there anybody else out there who has been going through this for a long time and needs a hand hold?

I’m 5.5 years into this journey now, 2 rounds of IVF and 2 miscarriages later, I’m still here and feeling so alone. Every support group I’ve joined has slowly fizzled out as people have become pregnant and moved on with their lives. I don’t blame anyone for that at all, I’d do the same, but being the one left at the end and still trying is a very lonely place to be and I wondered if there is anyone else out there in the same boat?

Yes I’m with you. Over 4 years, three miscarriages, now on my fourth round of IVF doing embryo batching with PGS testing. I just feel like IVF is something I do now, I don’t even expect it to work.

I'm here too, over 4 years ttc. 6 miscarriages (2 from ivf). It's been a long journey to this point. We have one embryo left from our first round which were hoping to transfer in the late Spring. I've had a lot of tests, thought we'd found the cause of my losses and our subfertility (overactive immune system), but despite being on lots of treatment, I still lost my baby. We had them tested and she was a healthy baby girl.

I'm trying a new drug now to help regenerate my endometrial stem cells, so we're on a 3 month break.

I'm sorry you're both here ❤️

Yup, over 6 years, 3 rounds and 1 loss. I also feel like ivf is just something I do now. Tbh I'm dreading it working. Early pregnancy was hellish anxious for me, and what do you know, I lost the baby anyway. Urgh

Me. Trying for nearly 4 years, 2 rounds of IVF and literally nothing. Doctors are clueless and just want us to spend more money on tests, we’ve had a fair few tests already. Everyone we know personally with fertility issues has resolved them and had a child

Not sure if l can be bothered doing a 3rd round. Not even sure if l want it to work anymore. To be honest l feel like l have already done my quota of not drinking, feeling sick, being bloated, lots of medical appointments, weight gain etc. Why should l have to do that again if it ever works Can’t the easily fertile who get pregnant at the drop of a hat just have them!

This is no longer me, but I wanted to send you all hugs. It took 8 years to get our +ve, the one and only time. I was the isolated one too; it's only years later you hear of tales of 10 years plus. Just sending hope to you all.

You are certainly not alone in this feeling.

I am nearly 8 years on this journey, 5 rounds of IVF, 2 miscarriages & 1 chemical pregnancy. It definitely feels like everyone else ends up with some level of success and it’s just not going to happen for me. But I have just had a negative pregnancy test yesterday from my recent IVF so it’s still a bit raw for me right now.

Thank you @Diditreallylookawful for that positive story x

@PositiveThinkerAlways I'm so sorry about your recent transfer ❤️

@VenusStarr Thank you very much, I guess you have been in the same situation yourself at some point or another.
It’s just a brutal journey….. but I guess these experiences make us stronger so it’s recovery time for me, before preparing for my very final round and last shot at it before taking a very different life path!

Me too 4 years since started trying although only able to try 50% of time due to OH working away. Started IVF after about 1-1.5 years of actual cycles IYSWIM. First FET negative, 2nd MMC. Now embryo banking. Coming up to a year since being pregnant and really struggling, the waiting feels unbearable atm. I have very few days where I don’t think about it all, I wish I could be like others who have miscarriages and can just get back to feeling normal but I think the IVF aspect makes it so hard. Really glad to find this thread.

@InvisibleDreamer There are no words of comfort I can give, except after reading so many experiences on here I have realised that I am genuinely not alone, so neither are you.
Although it often feels like I am!
I am very grateful for the brave & strong ladies that post their journeys on this forum as I’m generally not brave enough to do so but always get a lot of comfort from hearing other peoples stories, both positive & negative.

Oh I'm sorry x I've been trying for 2 years and I feel the whole thing is driving me completely insane!

@Diditreallylookawful thank you for your story x