We've been trying for two years, had five miscarriages and now daughter and sister in law are pregnant and I feel so low.

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My husband and I have been trying to conceive for just over two years and I have had two miscarriages in March and June last year. They were my fourth and fifth miscarriages. We were wrongly told that I shouldn't have any more children because I had Strep B when I delivered our daughter almost 19 years ago. Apparently it was a new thing at the time and nobody told me that information was wrong. Every period breaks my heart. We don't drink alcohol. smoke, eat processed food and we're doing everything that is suggested - nothing is happening. My daughter had an abortion whilst I was last miscarrying and I feel so sad. She is now pregnant again with a new partner and having twins! I so want to be happy for her; we haven't told anyone that we are trying or that we have lost babies, but I can't help feeling frustrated that she aborted a pregnancy because her relationship ended and now she's getting two babies and we want a baby so bad, but I can't carry past 8 weeks! My sister in law, who is 6 years older than me (I have just turned 40) has also announced she is pregnant. I don't want to sour their happy news, because that is wonderful. but I feel sick and hopeless. What can I do?

OK. Thanks.

Pregnancies in others is always hard when struggling with fertility.

Have you been to a recurrent miscarriage clinic?

Have you had any fertility tests? A fertility mot at a private clinic would be your best bet if you hadn't to at least know if there's any causal factors and if anything could support a pregnancy eg progesterone, aspirin.

As for the pregnancies, sadly that is life and though the abortion must feel heartbreaking, that's her life. Likewise, we always know someone in supposedly worse circumstances who seems to be more blessed. You don't know their fertility journey and that's important to keep in mind. In the same way they don't know yours.