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Eccabay · 25/02/2022 02:43

From a young age I knew I wanted to be a mom! Growing up I didn’t have the best childhood and I definitely did not have a family besides my mom and dad. I always told myself that I wanted to have my own family one day and raise them how I wish I was raised and give them the life I so badly wish I had had.
At the age of 23 I was diagnosed with PCOS and it felt like my world had crumbled before me. My obgyn started me on clomid just to see if it would help me ovulate, which of course it didn’t. It made me feel like every last bit of hope I had left to have a family of my own was slowly drifting away.
My 28th birthday has come and gone and I still have not been lucky enough to get pregnant. Let alone have a pregnancy scare. The longer time passes the less optimistic I become. I know it might sound stupid to some but something I always promised myself was that if I was unable to have a child of my own by the age of 30 that I would stop trying and accept Gods wishes. I’m only a year and a half away from that age and it keeps getting harder to believe. I lay in bed at nights and wonder why me, what did I do to deserve this. I don’t feel like anyone around me understands how I feel. Everyone around me is making pregnancy announcements, my best friend is trying for baby #2 and all I want is to be able to have just 1 child of my own. It feels like someone’s stepped on my chest and crushed me. I would do anything to wake up one day and finally have the news I’ve been waiting for my whole life.

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Cma1988 · 25/02/2022 10:46

You are still quite young though. It can still happen past 30. You could still get pregnant fir another 15 years

FloatOnBytheStorms · 25/02/2022 11:14

I am so sorry for what you are going through OP. We have had 3 years of infertility and an IVF cycle that ended in miscarriage. What really helps me is my pets. I have two bunnies and I adore them. Ofcourse it’s no substitute at all for a baby but when I feel low I give them a cuddle and feel so so much better. Just a living breathing animal close to my chest calms me down. I don’t know if a pet is something you could get to help you get through this time? X

FloatOnBytheStorms · 25/02/2022 11:17

Also I wouldn’t set arbitrary deadlines. It doesn’t matter if you’re 30 or 40 or older. Love is love. Who cares if you’re older? But I do understand that the longer it takes the more helpless it feels. If you were to do IVF at your age you would have an excellent chance of success. I put off doing it for a long time and wish I’d done it sooner for better chances.

Mummytotwogirls01 · 28/02/2022 10:01

I was 31 and 35 when I had my kids 30 is still young - when I was younger I always said my cut off age would be 35 as this is when fertility drops but when I went to NCT classes with my first most of the other FTM were 35 and they all went on to have second baby even later. I always thought of it doesn't happen (I too have PCOS) then I don't want to look back and regret not trying a bit longer! Xx

IsabelHerna · 28/02/2022 12:04

I am so sorry you're experiencing problems with ttc, but you're very young to get disappointed. I would say, get some more fertility investigations done and don't set limits.

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