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Miscarriage and step-parenting

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Libertypancake · 08/02/2022 09:48

Hi everyone

I am feeling deeply sad after a very early miscarriage (following miscarriage last year).
I have a 7 yr old step son who I have a great relationship with and a husband who, normally, couldn’t be any more supportive if he tried.
At the moment I am really struggling with watching him have a relationship with his son. It is so hard and I feel angry and bitter that he isn’t doing that for our child. I don’t want to be around them together but my husband is worried it will have an impact on my step son if I don’t.
I Love our family, and when this pain isn’t happening to me I am happy. But I feel so confused about being angry with my husband for already having what I want and him not understanding that. I don’t feel resentful towards my step son but sometimes I feel deeply resentful of the relationship my husband has with him. I want that for OUR child as well.
I am well aware of how selfish I sound, how lucky I am to have what I do in the first place and that I miscarried so early.
I need to navigate my way out of this and cause minimal damage to everyone. Please help. Xx

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GoodbyeKat · 08/02/2022 19:46

Sorry for what you going through. Think you need to see a doctor and talk to them abkiut how your feeling, without being able to lay these feelings toward your DH and DSS they will eat you up and that won’t do anyone any good. You have very right to feel sad, angry, confused of course you do but it’s you that you will ultimately end up hurting the most

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