Miscarriages - when to stop :-(

[LovesFood1987]

I am hugely blessed to have 1 child but have been trying for baby 2 for years now. So far I have had 4 miscarriages, my latest one was at 9 weeks and was a blighted ovum. Nothing like a foetus has formed in any if my 4 miscarriages and I'm feeling desperately sad and hopeless. All tests (NHS and private) are completely normal.

I know I am very lucky to have one child. I don't know how many more miscarriages I can take. Any advice or personal experience about giving up?

All the best to everyone with their journey wherever you are xx

Hi op, I’m so sorry for the heartbreak you’ve been through. I had one child, conceived quickly and then Multiple mmc in a row.
It’s mentally and physically horrendous.
I didn’t want to give up after three years of this, something kept me believing good news had to be around the corner.
All my tests were normal except my immunes. My body was attacking the embryos. I had treatment and had a baby on that treatment plan. Pm me if you want more info. Big hugs, it’s so horrible I know

Just wanted to post some support, it’s so heartbreaking. We’ve been trying for baby no 2 for over a year now with two early miscarriage/chemical pregnancies. I’m already finding hard so can understand how hard it must be.

I'm so sorry @LovesFood1987 ❤️ I think we've spoken before. Have you had any of your pregnancies tested? We're ttc our first but still trying after 4 years. We had my 4th tested and he was chromosomally normal so we went for private immune testing. What private tests did you do?

I don't have a happy ending yet though, I lost my 6th pregnancy in November (still waiting for cytogenetic results), it was my second on an immune protocol, so I'm unsure what the next step is. I felt like I was getting closer to walking away but haven't made a decision yet whilst there's still some unknowns.

It can feel like a very lonely place when you keep losing babies xx

So sorry to hear of your situation Venus, I can't imagine losing 6 pregnancies. I'm so sorry for you. I can absolutely relate to your loneliness

The only things I haven't had tested are uterine NK cells and I've never tried a pregnancy with "immunes". Sorry I think I've checked this before so forgive me for being stupid but does that just mean prednisolone? I have read that they often advise intra-lipid but apparently this can actually be harmful?! I don't really know what to think tbh!

I just know that it's tricky with private healthcare as they have a financial incentive to advise treatment, they know women are desperate for a baby and will try a lot of things even when the evidence is limited about whether it will work or not. Having said that I do feel the NHS approach to just advise repeated pregnancies without any treatment or change of plan feels hopeless and pointless.

I'm due hysteroscope at the end of next month, after that we've had all tests possible apart from uNK cells. My 4th loss has been sent off for karyotyping but we haven't got the results yet.

Sorry again for everyone's losses 😞