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Rollypops · 16/01/2022 15:01

Hello everyone,
I just wondered if any of you guys had any personal experiences of this yourself.......
So myself and other half have done 3 full rounds of IVF over 2 years and so grateful that our 3rd / final try / last embryo was successful.
My husbands brother and girlfriend have been going through it for years, so when we found out we were pregnant, we made sure we told them on their own, not in a group with others.
Throughout the pregnancy so far, we have tried to be as sensitive as possible when they are around, or in group chats that we don't upset them. We know all too well how it feels when someone else tells you you're pregnant and it's not you! A stab to the heart!
We all used to be really close before we got pregnant, and now it feels really awkward, like the elephant in the room no one wants to talk about. They never ask how anything is going and if others talk about it to us in their company, it gets ignored or they walk off. Now I'm not saying that this is wrong, it isn't, and it's obviously hurtful to them, however they have now said that it's us and that we never tell them how anything is going. Which we don't because of how they have reacted so far.
It's all got really awkward. So just wondering if anyone has any advice on what to do, or personal experiences?
Many thanks for taking the time to read..xx

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Frenchwindows · 16/01/2022 16:59

Well it must be incredibly difficult for them which I’m sure you can understand. I think just accept that they will not want to talk about it with you or be around baby chat. There will be lots of other people that you can share the happy news with and talk to, it just can’t be those two. Don’t take it personally?

Frenchwindows · 16/01/2022 17:00

Oh sorry I’ve just seen you said they have complained about you not saying anything!! Maybe just explain that you thought they would find it hurtful?

Justhopeful · 16/01/2022 23:45

Also will suggest you are completely there for them like you used to. That is how one of my sisters has been with us always calling and asking about our appointments and shows genuine interest and concern with every stage of our treatment, and she has a new born as well, unlike my other sister, she is constantly calling and showing us what her new born is doing and never asking about our journey knowing how long we have been trying.

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