Recent miscarriage and Christmas

[Bigconspiracy]

I started having a miscarriage 23rd November. I was feeling ‘alright’ and actually started my period a few days ago so was pleased everything working ok.

I have however found today unexpectedly hard. I have a lot to be grateful for I life but the joy I usually feel at a Christmas is not there. I had to put on a happy face and the act of putting on the happy face made me feel really sad. If I hadn’t had to act fake I think I’d have been ok.

Suppose I am looking for a handhold and if anyone is going through or has gone through similar. Thank you x

PS I am so sorry if I posted this in the wrong board as I know there are people on here who are going through worse.
This is my second mc

Hi there!
I am so sorry you are going through this. Christmas is especially hard because for some reason it has to do with happy families and children and presents and pictures.. but for some of us it's nothing like that. I am going through hell at the moment, last year I had a chemical pregnancy from IVF just before Christmas on my husband's birthday. This year I had another failed transfer and some cancelled transfers. This month we tried naturally and I was so stupid to think that it had worked...it hadn't and it had happened just before Christmas.. so this Christmas I am done. I am done smiling and pretending. I feel like shit and I want to stay like this until I feel better.
My point is that what you are feeling right now is so normal. It is all right to feel like this. I think it is part of the healing process. 💗
I am sending you a big hug! 🤗🤗

Hi @Bigconspiracy @Yuliaaa

Big hugs to you both. Thinking of everyone feeling sad today xx Honestly feel the same and actually felt relief seeing this post (sorry if that sounds strange). I had my 3rd transfer 22 nd November that ended in miscarriage this month. I had the same situation last year. I just feel absolutely drained and to be honest sick and tired of putting on a brave face. Just trying my best to get through the next few days before I have to restart investigations. Eating my weight in chocolate and drinking my favourite wine.

Hope you both are ok

@Parisinthesummer I am so sorry and sad that you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. The least we can do is try and survive this Christmas and hope that 2022 will be easier on us. Sending you lots of love!

@Yuliaaa and @Parisinthesummer thank you both so much for your kindness and replies. It had really helped. I relate to all of what you have both said.

@Yuliaaa I am glad to bring somebody relief, it’s not weird at all! You are right about the whole happy families thing. I told myself I would not ‘fake’ this time around and not do anything I don’t feel like doing, but Xmas is unavoidable really. I cannot begin to imagine the heartache that you have been through, and you’re not stupid at all!! You are strong, because to allow yourself to hope after all you’ve been through is strong!

@Parisinthesummer hugs to you, again I cannot begin to imagine the heartache. You look after yourself and eat all the choc and wine! Good luck with your investigations although not sure if that’s 100% the right thing to say.

Love to you both xxx

@Parisinthesummer my comment about relief, meant to direct that at you - doh!

I also felt very sad for having to pretend to be happy. It's a very difficult time of year to be going through this awfulness.

I had surgery for my miscarriage on 24 November (my 6th loss, second ivf loss) and have had some complications so had a few hospital visits over the last 4 weeks. We decided to just have the day together. I had a few really sad moments and cried a few times, so I know it was the right decision to stay away from people.
Lots of love to all here ❤️ xx

@CurbsideProphet@VenusStarr love and hugs! 💗

@Bigconspiracy thank you for your kind words! 💗

@VenusStarr Just seen your post, I'm really sorry to hear your update

@CurbsideProphet @VenusStarr all I can say is lots of love and hugs to you both . What a shitty shitty time.

@Yuliaaa thanks to you too. You made me feel better on Christmas Day!

@Jinglebaubles 💐

@Jinglebaubles 💗