Not long finished cancer treatment and told pregnancy impossible

[Jane1987]

Hi I've not long got through cancer treatment. Before this we ttc for 4 years and following a birth trauma we were told conception unlikely so we happily made peace with our beautiful daughter as an only child who is now 9. My period is late this month which is unusual so I dug out my old clearblue monitor searched for batteries and found a test that was left over and it has come up pregnant on the machine. Is it likely to be wrong? I've not had this happen for 10 years so I'm extremely shocked!

I don't know how to add a photo. Are these tests accurate? Are there any I should go and buy? Any help so appreciated

Maybe try a Clearblue Digital test? I used to use cheap tests for the first test then confirm with a digital.

Hi OP, how late are you? And what reasons did they give for you not being able to get pregnant again, if you don’t mind sharing?
I think if your late and have taken a positive test there’s obviously a chance but don’t want to get your hopes up without more info.
I’d go straight and buy another test, clear blue or first response I normally buy. You can add a photo if you click on the paper clip under message box I think.

I’m 3 days late so not ages. I can’t see a paper clip to attach a photo I’m not great at technology so it’s likely me!

Ah is your account new? I think you need to wait 48 hours before you can post a photo. If it’s not that then I have no idea either
Did you do another test? 3 days is quite long if it’s not usual for you to be late.

Yes its new that must be why! Thanks so much. No not tried another test I only had the one so ordered one to come tomorrow

It's positive on a clear blue digital. I'm completely confused

@Jane1987 Sounds very promising, congratulations! 💐

I'm a bit scared to be honest. Worried about the big age gap and the being pregnant so close to chemo.
I honestly just thought it would never happen so shut that part off in my mind and now I'm so all over the place

Congratulations OP- if that is what you want. I know other mums with similar age gaps and it seems to have worked out well for them.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

To be honest I'm not sure if it is what I want and much to my other half's upset I don't think I can go forward with it. The fear has kicked in and I'm terrified. I don't remember being like this before when I had my daughters 😭

What a rollercoaster for you, @Jane1987!

It's not surprising that you're feeling some uncertainty about what to do - you've had to come to terms with this not being thought possible, as well as the trauma you've experienced. It sounds like a really scary and confusing situation.

Although it might feel like you have to make a decision straight away, you don't have to - you can take a bit of time to gather your thoughts and any information you might want to help you make a decision. Maybe try a change of scenery this weekend and get out into nature (a walk, a trip to a park, etc.)? Maybe watch a favourite movie with your daughter? Basically, try to spend the weekend doing things that help you feel better and calmer. Then next week you could maybe arrange to speak with relevant healthcare professionals (like your GP or your consultant's team if you're still under consultant follow-up), to get information about the safety of being pregnant at this point in your recovery, the chances if the pregnancy being successful, and any risks associated with being pregnant (eg. pregnancy comes with a lot of hormonal changes - would these be safe?). Once you've had a bit of space to wrap your head around things, and some medical advice, you may find it easier to make a decision you feel comfortable with.

Thank you that's so kind of you to reply and great suggestions. I have been struggling with my mental health the past few months so that's the main reason I feel its not fair on a baby or my family to add to everything so thought best to hurry and decide to not continue it 😔