[quote Janefx40]@Muffinn I'm so sorry that you've been on a tough journey. 💐💐💐 No one can tell you when to stop because it's such a tough and personal decision. There are groups for women who don't have children but would like to and there is a charity I think too but I can't remember the name. You could look up the support that's available and talk to other women in a similar situation. That might help.
However I also want to say that you've only done one round of IVF and very few people succeed first time. I remember turning 40 and being childless and I know that it feels like your age is this terrifying and awful factor. But with good AMH, being 40 really isn't a fertility-death sentence. Yes fertility does decline quite quickly but you aren't at the end of the road age-wise just yet. I got pregnant from my second round of ICSI aged 41 and had my DD when I was nearly 42. It happens a lot. You'll be very far from the oldest at most IVF clinics.
I also want to say that very very few people ever get a clear diagnosis of why they're struggling to conceive, whether they are 25 or 40. And for those that do get a diagnosis, it often takes years of investigations. That doesn't mean that the only reason is your age and egg quality. Infertility is a long and complex road - clinics are sometimes very quick to blame egg quality when things don't work out. But unless they tested your embryos then they don't really know that any more than you do (and even if they tested that's not conclusive necessarily either).
Finally, it's not necessarily true that your egg quality can't be improved. A lot of people believe that specific diets and supplements can make improvements over time - it's not necessarily evidenced and some people think it's nonsense but I personally think there is something in it. I followed the book It Starts With an Egg and personally feel it made a difference this time around. However I would say that I didn't do any of that before my successful round. I'm 44 now so wanted to throw everything at it.
I've done 6 egg collection cycles, 3 transfers and a whole lot more so there's plenty more I could say but I don't want to overwhelm you.
So I just want to give you a virtual hug and say that you don't have to give up just yet. But if you feel that you want to stop then sending you lots of love and hope you find the support to take that step too xxx
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Janefx, thanks so much for your kind words full of hope and understanding. It really means so much to me. I am not ready yet to give up although i would love to stop thinking about this all the time. But my therapist says it is impossible: as long as i am in the process and trying i can't stop thinking. I live in Serbia and here if you are 4o yrs old they practically don't give you any chances. Also when i see so many women much younger than me trying for the 3, 4th time, what can i hope for?
Anyway, to cut the story short, i wanted to thank you once again, you gave me hope that there is still chance for me and you gave me fresh perspective regarding embryo quality. I will probably try in another clinic, maybe they have better embryologists. I am so happy to hear sucesfull stories like yours. All the best! 
