Unexplained infertility

[Emma1410]

Just wondering if anyone else has had the unexplained secondary infertility diagnosis too?
And what is your next steps?
I've just had another friend announce a pregnancy (thats 12 in 12 months) and it's actually getting to me more than ever. Especially when every single one has said they didn't really try, it just happened.
Also as I am really struggling with it can anyone recommend some ways to cope?
Thanks in advance

Hi @Emma1410 when i first had the diagnosis of unexplained back in 2017 we went straight into the NHS investigations with a view to doing IUI. I was 35 at that time and IUI worked. For us that was the logical next step, have they said you’d be a candidate for IUI?

Hi @KayReeves
I've gone through all the nhs testing as far as I am aware and it's come back as unexplained infertility.
As I already have a child (which I know I am incredibly lucky to have) I know that they had said I wouldn't be offered ivf on the nhs.
I did struggle to have my first daughter and I'm finding it even harder this time as she is Absolutley desperate for a sibling and I really feel like I'm depriving her of that.
So think I'll have to look into other options how did you and your partner find the IUI?

Hey we are also having secondary infertility. IUI worked first time in 2017 but now my AMH is low and we’ve done 5 IVFs but no baby 2. I know exactly how you feel about depriving them of a sibling, its heartbreaking isn’t it? You’re not alone x

@KayReeves
Heart breaking is the right word. She's great she's very happy healthy little girl, but she keeps saying how she wants a baby brother or sister. Out of all her friends and mine she's the only one without a sibling and I really struggle to talk to people about it as I feel I sound in grateful an i don't want people to feel sorry for me. But yet again another pregnancy announcement from a friend who wasn't even trying and here I am an emotional wreck🙈

I know how you feel. I’m trying to navigate through life and enjoy my son but the infertility is a dark cloud over everything. The IVF has really traumatised me and pregnancy announcements just knock me sideways. Its awful isn’t it x

@KayReeves
I can only imagine the trauma of IVF. I do know a few people in a similar situation to yourself and it's just soul destroying sometimes. It's the absolute highs and the lows isn't it.
Will you still carry on with IVF? I think a second opinion is what I'll be looking to do next and then if it's IVF we will have to give it a go.
As you say it's just awful isn't it how things like this can completely knock you sideways!

I have low AMH so may try natural IVF but I know the success rates are terrible plus i’m 40 soon and thats a really shitty fertility milestone. None of our 9 embryos from IVF implanted so i don’t think more of the same is an option plus we’ve spent a small fortune on it. Its just so hard and I feel stuck. I want to live my life but I can’t. X

Sending lots of luck and love x