Starting the IVF process - any advice

[CherylPorter350]

Hi,
A little introduction. I'm 41, DH 42, I have 3 kids from my previous marriage and he has two. He had a vasectomy 11 years ago, before we married, and we've decided we'd like one more child. After doing some research I think we're opting for IVF with sperm aspiration over reversal, given my age.

Had a gp app yesterday to do cd21 bloods to check ovulation and then it will be a referral to a private clinic. I've no experience of ivf and just wondered if anyone had any advice? What to expect? The process?

I've found a clinic that does mild IVF, meds not injections, that is supposed to concentrate on egg quality not quantity...supposedly good for the 40+ range...anyone heard of it.

If you've got this far thanks for reading, very nervous here

Hi @CherylPorter350
Lovely to meet you, I'm a couple of years older than you, I have a DS and now I am doing IVF (after much denial).

You sound like you've got everything under control with IVF planning. Have you read the book "It all starts with an Egg"? Someone recommended it to me a few months ago, and it has helped me understand the process quite nicely.

How are you feeling so far? Have you talked to someone about it?

You don't need to be nervous around here, we're all going through something similar.

I wanted to ask you opinion on something. Have you told your kids about you trying for a sibling?

@dutchessmom thanks for your reply, it's all so daunting.

I haven't told our children about us trying for another. My oldest are 18 and 21...im sure they thinks I'm way too old. My youngest are 12 and 13 and I'd be worried they'd get there hopes up and it wouldn't work.

@CherylPorter350, thanks for getting back at me :)

Oh, I see your children are older than my DS, he is just 8. I don't know what to do. I want (and I am trying to) have an open and honest relationship with him. Also, sometimes he mentions he wants a younger sibling and other times he says he is glad he's alone and doesn't have to share his PS4. I don't know how to handle it.

@dutchessmom my youngest has said he likes being the baby if the family (his dad has a 3 Yr old but they've pushed my kids out a bit since his birth) so I think he'd take time to come round. It's difficult as I'm usually very open with my children and I don't like hiding things from them