Anyone not treating their infertility medically, eg NO IUI, IVF, Clomid etc

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I am 23, DP is 26 so technically we were 21 and 24 when we first started trying... even if it wasn't 'intentional'. It is sad, motherhood was all i ever wanted, but I CANNOT physically keep going on hoping, praying for that BFP its sending me mad and its destroying me. The comparisons, the jealousy when it feels like everyone else is having a baby, the feelings of disgust for your body not doing what should be natural, the list goes on. Bleh.

We've not been successful in getting pregnant for over 2 and a half years now. I've lost a decent amount of weight, im the lightest I've been my whole adult life, started taking supplements and we have been eating healthier, less stress, more fun time together and just trying to enjoy each other.

After a long horrible emotionally turbulent day yesterday (on my part - DP was an angel, so understanding) both me and DP agreed that we would prefer to just live our lives and accept that if it happens it happens rather than start the whole journey of tests, appointments, mediations, bloods, IVF potentially etc etc.

Is anyone else whose entering into the infertility waters decided to let nature take its course too, accept how rubbish and unfair it is, and just start to let themselves move on?

When it comes to infertility there are so many issues that cause it and they must be investigated. Unfortunately nature can be very tough on us and keeping a healthy lifestyle, taking suplements and working out don't solve the problems.
After 2 years of TTC without any results I would advise you to consider seeing a doctor. You need to know if everything is OK with you and your partner. Just think of it as a step forward towards your goal of becoming pregnant.

I wasted almost a year and half hoping that nature will take its course and it didn't. Without proper medical asistance my chances of getting pregnant are very low. I wish I had known better and acted faster.

Of course, just the thing about it is for me is the treatments they provide are pharmaceutical and its just never felt right to do that for us when making a baby, i want it to be natural or not at all. i have concerns about for example clomid and the effects it could have on me and a baby - which I know the doctors would most probably prescribe me due to my history

You're so young, so you have plenty of time to set this aside if that's what you wish. Perhaps it will happen naturally eventually. I agree with PP though, if you've been actively trying for a baby and it hasn't happened after 2 years, it's worth a visit to the doctor to have some investigations. Then you know what you're dealing with. You don't have to have treatment.

Infertility is so hard, and whatever path you take I hope you can find peace and happiness.

I'd recommend getting some investigations done before making any final decisions, as some people's fertility issues can be due to other health issues which can be treated. For example, if someone has hypothyroidism, their fertility may improve once their condition is appropriately managed, and it can be diagnosed using a simple blood test by a GP. This wouldn't be fertility 'treatment' per se. You and your partner could get some initial tests done at your GP and go from there? There's no requirement to commit to anything invasive or any courses of treatment, and it could help you a) make an informed decision about how to proceed and b) check if either of you have any underlying health issues which could be treated to improve your overall health and avoid complications later.

You could also look into tracking ovulation to improve your chances of TTC during your fertile window each month. This can be done through a number of non-invasive ways, including tracking your temperature. Fertile windows are actually quite narrow, so it's possible to miss them more often than we think. Again, this isn't a fertility treatment - lots of women track ovulation as part of TTC.

If you want a natural conception only then that is totally fine but you need to make sure you’re happy that this likely means you will never be parents or have a baby. I would do some counselling to untangle why ‘natural’ is so important to you. Of course you may get lucky but unfortunately there is no natural treatment for infertility

We did, we have been trying for about 8 years (now 34), felt we had time on our side and would see what happens, both fit and healthy. After 6 years we decided to go for tests because we had never had a positive test. Covid delayed things and the referral took a while as GP found my vit d levels really low despite supplements so wanted to treat that first.
After 4 scans they discovered a large polyp which would prevent implantation so I need it removed. Been waiting 6 months for removal as need general anaesthetic - it’s been 18 months since I went to gp.

I have read having polyp removed increases chances by 69% so we are now trying to decide whether to keep trying naturally after removal or go down a medical route - time is no longer on our side as much. The consultant has been fab and has said if we choose to try naturally we can always come back to NHS as they just pause it and although you don’t join at top of the list you don’t need to faff with GP.

Honestly, I wish I’d gone to the GP much earlier, we wanted a couple of children and whilst I don’t know how long the polyp has been there it is likely to be quite some time. If I’d had it removed at 28 after 2 years of ttc I could have continued to try naturally for 2-3 years before seeking further help.

I’d go, see what they say because it could be something totally treatable without medication that without being fixed you won’t be able to conceive.