IVF Failure

[fordo1986]

Hi Ladies,

So I'm in a major panic at the moment that my body won't allow me to get pregnant.
I started my journey with IUI and successfully fell pregnant on the second go but I miscarried at 11weeks! I allowed myself some time but i tried again and then had a chemical miscarriage followed by a failed attempt.

We since started IVF and had 15 eggs taken, of which we only ended up with 3 decent embryos which I was gutted by considering how many were taken. I am 13 days past my first fresh embryo transfer and it was a bug fat negative, I still haven't had my period but just spotting (which at first I hoped was implementation bleeding) I'm really scared my body is letting me down and I am so terrified it won't happen for us.

I'm scared to try again as the constant upset and negativity is playing its toll on my mental health. Has anybody else had these issues that has any advice they can provide?
Sorry I'm so desperate to speak with people who understand
Thank you!

Hi, I’m sorry you didn’t get a response yet. My story was a little different in that I could get pregnant but miscarried multiple times in a row. I then did a couple of ivf rounds to look for chromosome normal embryos.
Have you spoken to your clinic to understand the drop off rate from 15 to 3? Are they proposing any changes if you cycle again? Do they know what the reason could be e.g male factor?
Have you had your womb checked in case any issues there with maintaining the pregnancy?
Have you had basic bloods to make sure your thyroid, vitamin D and iron levels are ok? There are other tests that are more extensive like anti phospholipids for clotting issues. There are also immune tests to check you aren’t attacking the embryos ( this was my issue)
I don’t know what age you are but chromosome testing / pgs is useful to rule out embryos which will definitely miscarry and some ladies go that route.
Wishing you luck

How old are you OP? My situation is slightly different to yours in that I never had a successful implantation until I finally got lucky (negative pregnancy tests every time even though I tested early just in case), so I'm not sure about extra tests for miscarriage or implantation issues, sorry.

But if it gives you hope, I had 6 unsuccessful IUI's and 2 unsuccessful double embryo transfers before I finally conceived from my 2nd IVF cycle (3rd double embryo transfer), although I'm obviously still very nervous about loss as I'm only 19 weeks. I was nearly 38 when I started (40 now) and my clinic said they aren't surprised if IUI doesn't work as it's only about the same chance as natural conception for some women and equally they wouldn't advice any extra tests until 3 or 4 failed embryo transfers for IVF (apparently that can be the average to conceive, especially once fertility starts to decline or if you have unknown fertility problems).

Good luck to you .