Posting in infertility because I'm just about to start my first cycle of IVF, although really this is a general question about parenthood.
I'm early 30's and my partner approaching his mid 40's. He has wanted a child most of his adult life but not found the right relationship until me. I've always wanted one too.
The problem is he has chronic fatigue and some health issues which are not life threatening but quite serious, and mean that he sometimes just needs to sleep and does not really function. His health condition is the reason we need fertility treatment.
Recently, as we start treatment and it becomes more of a reality, he just seems so worried about the prospect of having a child.
I feel like he often focusses on his worries and the negatives of parenting. He says he feels bad that I will be left to do a lot of the work (which is probably true, not because he doesn't want to but because of his fatigue, but my response is that I don't mind).
It's very difficult not quite knowing what it is like having a newborn, to know whether or not we will cope. I keep trying to be positive and saying we will be fine, but it's hard to maintain that when I actually don't really know what it will be like. I have asked him if he definitely wants to do this and he repeatedly insists yes, he really wants a child.
Has anyone raised a child with one partner having health issues/ chronic fatigue? How was it and did you cope?