Did you do a private IVF cycle to speed things up?

[thislittlebird]

What the title says really, did you do a private cycle, and did you regret it or were happy you did it? I’m thinking we should go ahead with one private round (and we’re allowed to in our ccg) if they can fit us in before Christmas. Looking for some experiences I suppose, if it works it’s worth it, but I’m worried it’ll fail. I know we won’t know until we try, of course!

*run not tin!

I'll probably go for one the first time but if I have implantation issues I might be tempted by 2. Not being able to conceive really does suck. I've stopped expecting it to actually work from month 3 I think. Except this month. This month I'm hopeful that I'll get the miracle 'just as we were about to start IVF!' baby. My sister in law just got pregnant after 2 years, so it does happen

@CycleGirl20

I'll probably go for one the first time but if I have implantation issues I might be tempted by 2. Not being able to conceive really does suck. I've stopped expecting it to actually work from month 3 I think. Except this month. This month I'm hopeful that I'll get the miracle 'just as we were about to start IVF!' baby. My sister in law just got pregnant after 2 years, so it does happen

@CycleGirl20

I'm really sorry you're going through this, it's so tough and everyone else. I hadn't a clue before how the moons, starts and the planet's need to align for conception to occur, it was all so simplified at school... but crystal clarified how difficult it is by the consultant for £300 for 1h preliminary consultation. The arrogance of the younger me in my 20s assuming all of us WILL get pregnant when WE want to There's no rhyme, reason, logic why it sometimes works and at other tikes doesn't. Other than genetics (to a degree and maybe more applicable to those of us who are older) and luck!! The clinics tweak protocols as and when needed ,but yet still it's so much 'hocus pocus' and so many variables at play, it's like playing Russian Roulette.. Sorry, am getting philosophical about all this. I have embryos in the freezer, several of them, and I want to give them for 'adoption'. If I can somehow help another person/couple achieve their dream, I'd gladly do so.

@Musttryharder2021 I think it being hard comes in waves these days for me. It's been so long. I'm more optimistic at the moment as I'm 35 and with high AMH so I have good chances from my first collection. Reading between the lines, were you successful?

[quote CycleGirl20]@Musttryharder2021 I think it being hard comes in waves these days for me. It's been so long. I'm more optimistic at the moment as I'm 35 and with high AMH so I have good chances from my first collection. Reading between the lines, were you successful?[/quote]
Yes, age is an important factor and having a high AMH puts you in good stead.

Yes, I was successful on the first go despite really being convinced it wouldn't work. I'll never know why but trying to be logical and rational, having used a sperm donor whose quality of the sperm was excellent and most probably far more superior in quality than my own eggs so it offset the while thing? Also, I'd never been told about/knew that the male factor in pregnancy is crucial.. Nobody talks about it (the general public only the fertility clinics!)...

@Musttryharder2021 @CycleGirl20 yeah, we would consider two but probably not first time. Unless we only had two, who knows 🤷‍♀️

My hope is through the floor tbh. I see all these people on here getting BFPs and I could cry my eyes out (yesterday I did 🙃) because it’s never us. I just don’t understand why it’s so hard for some of us, even with interventions (I’m on my second letrozole cycle, first one failed). Like you said, it’s Russian roulette.

I’m older than CycleGirl at 38 and a bit but I also have high AMH and AFC. The lack of awareness of male factor is infuriating to me. Everyone keeps saying ICSI gets around it and I know that’s not always the case. I’m quite worried by fertilisation rates.