Menopause & IVF

[Meno21]

hello, i don't have anyone else to talk to about this but I thought someone here may be able to offer some insight.

Im 30 and menopausal, I came off contraception 2 years ago and was using natural cycles as a form of contraception and then as a form of cycle tracking to plan pregnancy.

My partner has 1 child already so I start to feel like something was wrong. I had my FHS levels tested and was scanned which confirmed I am menopausal and rarely ovulate (if at all) but I still shedding uterine lining.

Off the back of this we went to the best ivf clinic we could afford and the lead Dr recommended we start with treatment as soon as all the necessary checks have been carried out.

All of a sudden I'm questioning whether its fate that I can't naturally conceive (religious upbringing) and wondering if there's someone out there so desperate to have a child and I'm kind of taking their place? I'm terrified of being pregnant, having a child and then some how regretting it.

I told my bf super early on that I wanted children and this is challenging my perception of everything. Im scared of telling my fertility counsellor this incase they refuse treatment.

Anyone else?

I'm so sorry that you're menopausal at such a young age

I do not think it is fate, but if that's what you think, I could respect that. I absolutely think that this is exactly the kind of topic you should discuss with a counsellor though! I also had a religious upbringing and I know that, in some respects, it can encourage thought patterns on some topics that may not be in your best interests, and that might not align with your true feelings.

Of course it's okay if you decide that fertility treatment isn't for you, but I would talk it through with a professional to make sure it's not just religious guilt taking over.