MFI. Me 29 -no issues, DH 30.
We were lucky enough to be successful on our first cycle.
We had our only 2 embryos transferred and now have a teenager.
However, I wasn’t aware there were increased risks of ADHD/ASD with ICSI. I doubt that it would have affected my decision to go ahead though as I was so desperate to have a baby, you tend to think things won’t happen to you. However, teen has a joint diagnosis, is difficult and challenging but I am so grateful that our ICSI worked. I just wish I had a child that found life easier.
We kidded-ourselves that, as it had worked first time, it would be pretty straightforward to have a much wanted sibling.
7 further cycles, which resulted in 4 miscarriages and 3 failed cycles, certainly took its toll on our relationship, finances and -mine especially- mental health.
I don’t think anyone goes into ivf/icsi thinking it won’t work -you wouldn’t bother if you thought that would you? But it certainly is an emotional rollercoaster.
DH now does say he wishes he had considered donor sperm. At the time he wouldn’t entertain the idea but it, possibly, would have been less traumatic/more successful -who knows-but it certainly would have been cheaper. We would be mortgage free if we hadn’t spent so much on ICSI.
Without ICSI I wouldn’t be a mum, it’s all I wanted to be in life. The injections, daily internal scans, egg collections, embryo transfers and the dreaded roller coaster of the 2WW, desperately hoping for a positive, are all worth it.
Wishing you lots of luck on your journey 