How do you deal with last minute cancelled fresh ivf cycle ?

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I had 17 eggs collected and was at risk of ohss but the nurse said we will still go ahead with fresh transfer once we collected the eggs . So I took my progesterone ready for embryo transfer 5 days later . I go into the clinic and get all ready and they start scanning me and said I have mild OHSS so cancelled my cycle ! I am soooo upset that they didn’t check my blood work few days earlier or didn’t ask me to come for a scan few days earlier to check my status , and ovaries . Then cancelled my fresh transfer in the transfer room while I was all ready in my gown and ready to go ! I feel sooo sad and devastated ! It’s freeze all now . I can’t understand how can they get my hopes up like that and then cancel few minutes before the procedure . how do I carry on like this ? Iv been though 5 early misscarriges already naturally and this was my first ivf cycle and I got this far just for it to get cancelled i know it’s for my safety to freeze and and to do FET next cycle but I just don’t understand why they didn’t check my blood results earlier to let me know the numbers are out and not to bother coming into the clinic . iv been through soo much ! I don’t know how much more I can handle ! Thanks for reading !! Just wanted to get this pain of my chest !

I'm really sorry - it can feel so hard to have things changed at the last minute. I wonder if they might have done the scan as late as they could in order to give your ovaries the best chance of having recovered from any OHSS type issues - sometimes swelling and fluid can go down quickly, so a scan a few days earlier might not have reflected how your ovaries would be on the day of transfer.

I didn't get checked for OHSS before my fresh transfer and had horrible symptoms from it for weeks. As hard as the disappointment is, it's better to wait and transfer safely than to risk transferring with OHSS.

Plus, there are studies that suggest frozen transfers can have higher success rates than fresh, possibly because your body's had time to recover from the stims etc.

@Scirocco thank you for your nice words ! And yes you are probably right about the scan situation , I’m starting to calm down now and accept the situation , and looking forward to my FET now as there is nothing I can do and I agree about FET , my body will be in much better state

Oh dear, I am so sorry for your losses and for all the pain you've been through. I hope you feel a little better now.

It's so annoying waiting for something to happen, preparing for it both physically, mentally, and emotionally, and for it to not happen, especially for something so important.

But like the pp said, your body will be ready for the next cycle. Try to plan something interesting and fun to do during the month to help you.