Pregnancy announcements

[Luna92x]

I’m really upset right now and just want to speak to like minded people.
So my sister has an 11 month old (it was hard on me when she got pregnant with him) and she has now declared today that she is pregnant again “oh its come as such as a shock as we don’t even have sex like that we argue all the time so don’t know how this has happened”
Me and my partner have been together for 3 years now and have regular unprotected sex although not temping and tracking etc if i was to fall pregnant i would be over the moon and just lately every time my period comes i am devastated. Obviously with todays news i am fighting back tears and feel really upset about the whole thing and have acted bitter towards her because i cant be fake. 5 days ago she is crying at the concept that she may be pregnant again “i dont want another baby yet” yet she knows i would love to be a mum and its just not happening for me. And now today sending photos bragging “oh hes going to be a big brother”
Please help pick me up 😢☹️

Have you tried temping and tracking? Regular unprotected sex unless you can pin point your ovulation day is not always very effective? I know it takes away the spontaneity and fun of trying to get pregnant but honestly you'd be surprised about how easily you can miss your fertile window? X

I would speak to your sister and encourage her to be sensitive given your desire for a child. She probably doesn’t even think she’s hurting you .
Then as pp said, there are only about 5 fertile days a month and only 25% chance of conceiving even on those dates every month ( and that’s for a healthy 20 something year old) so if you do want a baby then I’d advise you to start tracking when you ovulate and have sex at the right time - as well as for fun the rest of the time !

Agree with PP, start tracking. If you've been having sex every 2 or 3 days for over a year, speak to your GP. If it hasn't been as regular as that, and you haven't been tracking, that could very well be the cause.

Sorry your sister has been insensitive

My doctor is absolutely awful. I had a hormone test she has called me today and all she said was its come back low so I didn’t ovulate this month. I was crying my eyes out on phone to her as now I am even more worried and asked her is there any thing i can do she could quite clearly hear me crying and she just said no i wouldnt worry ok bye. And that was it what a horrible doctor. Ive only recently moved house so this is a new doctor but clearly she isnt helpful at all.

Is this a gp or a fertility specialist?
You can have a cycle where you don’t ovulate and that can be normal. You may also not ovulate until late in your cycle so may not have done so when you had the test. That’s why you need to start to track your ovulation. This should be your next step

I’m sorry you’re upset

@Queenofsupreme thank you for replying and for caring. Just part of me thinks i probably never ovulate then as it seems weird i pick the only month i dont ovulate to be tested thats why its made me feel even more down about it.

@Queenofsupreme i have an ava bracelet on order hopefullly that will help me with my tracking x

That’s great, I never used that but hopefully it will give you more control over your cycle and what’s happening. You can then dtd at the right time and see if that makes the difference

Hopefully. A part of me every month just gives up hope though. My period is 2/3 days late now but i no thats just mother nature being cruel to me.