What to do with preg tests from early miscarriage

[2mumlife]

So, I still have a collection of positivie pregnancy tests from our chemical pregnancy from our last FET. Now we are starting another cycle I feel like its time to stop keeping them. They are the only BFPs I've had though, and just putting them in the bin doesn't feel emotionally right to me still. I don't want to feel like I'm just throwing away the only bit left / evidence of the child we never had. But I'm also ready to stop holding on them to.

I'm just wondering how other people have dealt with pregnancy tests after a loss, that might feel nicer than just putting them in the bin?

Hi, I'm so sorry about your chemical pregnancy. I was in a similar situation and took some photos of the tests and moved them to the 'hidden' album on my phone. Then I put them in the bin. They're there if I want to look at them. Wishing you all the best for your next cycle.

Hi @2mumlife - I know exactly how you feel. Just found out we had a chemical (wish there was a more sensitive term) yesterday after finding out we were pregnant last week.

We'd never had a positive test in 2 years so I didn't know what to do with the (many) tests.

In the end I took photos and put them in the bin to try and help me focus on our next cycle.

I don't know if it's helped or not but I knew I'd keep going back to it if I had kept it and it would of hurt more.

I hope you're okay - are you currently undergoing IVF?

@msgloria @2021babyhope Thanks for thoughts, that sounds like a sensible approach.

@2021babyhope We're just about to get started with 2nd round of IVF

@2mumlife good luck my love - I'll be doing my 2nd transfer (frozen) soon hopefully, just waiting to hear back from our clinic today for what we do next. I feel like I'd find it easier just to jump straight back in so I'm hoping they don't delay anything.

It's such an emotional time I'm trying to learn to find positives in hard situations and find ways to take care of myself at the same time.

I am so sorry you went through this. It is heartbreakingly sad.

I lost ours at 10.5 weeks, and I have everything relating to the pregnancy and the miscarriage in a box on top of my wardrobe. It has my IVF diary in it, pregnancy tests, IVF data for that cycle, EPU appointment cards and all the miscarriage information etc. I didn't want to throw it away, but I didn't want to see it every day either. Now I'm into my 2nd cycle I have found it helpful to refer back to my IVF diary notes on occasion x

@2021babyhope Good luck to you too!

@Goldilocks2528 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I have a bit of an ongoing diary about the whole fertility journey which I'll keep, and a photo of our glimmer of hope taken at the transfer which I'm also intending on keeping, so it really is just the test themselves I'm thinking its time to move on from. Best of luck for you for your second cycle