TTC experience

[Eirefairy]

Hello all. New to Mumsnet so please forgive me if this thread isn't relevant etc! But I thought I'd share my TTC experience here and see if anyone else feels similar or could possibly offer advice... Here goes.

My husband and I have never used protection of any kind. About 2 years ago we began ttc with no success. I had tests just to see if there was anything amiss but nothing has showed up so far but a doc suggested going for a hycosy. As I had an accident with abdominal trauma years ago but could have affected fallopian tubes. My husband hasn't had a sperm test yet.

We don't want IVF (I think it's absolutely fantastic but it's just not for me) and can't afford to adopt. So basically if anything comes back wrong with the tests and we don't conceive that's it...

Anyone else in a similar position? I would love to reach out and chat to others right now. I don't talk about this at all to anyone in my life other than my husband, I used to chat to my mum but she passed away 6 months ago.

Sorry to hear it's taking a while. The initial excitement of TTC wears off.
IVF and adoption aren't the only possibilities though depending on the results of your husband's tests, which really should be ordered now.

If your tubes are blocked sperm won't get through, unblocking could lead to conception.

What tests have you actually had? Sometimes when they haven't found anything amiss it's because they haven't tested everything yet. Or your levels of something are borderline, always ask for the results as in the figures, not just a 'normal' or 'looks fine'.

Re IVF not being for you, is that based on knowing much about it. It might not be for you at all which is fine but it's one thing to know the process and say no, and another to think 'oh no injections must be awful, couldn't do that' if it's something you'd want to overcome.
IVF is not the magic solution that some people think of course and it's totally valid to reject it, I'm just checking you know what you're turning down if that makes sense.

You may be able to try Clomid, or IUI if IVF isn't for you, it's much less invasive. A test confirming ovulation one month doesn't mean you ovulate every month hence worth getting that checked again.

It's sad that your mum is no longer with you to confide in and there is absolutely no substitute for that, but for infertility advice you should get good support and insight on these boards. 💐

Hi @LongerthanMrTicklesarms thanks so much for your comment! Yes we definitely do need to get the hycosy and my husband's semen analysis done and will hopefully be soon. I've had all the standard blood tests - all fine. Im waiting for months for a hycocy appointment so hopefully that will come through soon. I guess we won't have a clearer picture until that happens and in the meantime we continue to try!

IVF just isn't an option sadly.

Thanks so much again for your comments - it's really nice to speak to people who are going through or have gone through the same x

In that case hoping that the further tests give you the answers and ultimately lead you on the path to pregnancy.
Even with not great sperm results there are some ways to hopefully improve the situation (diet or supplements), and if tubes get 'flushed out' some people find that helps.
All the very best with it 💐

Hi lovely, I am sorry that your TTC journey is taking a while, and also my condolences on your loss.

I've found great support here in mumsnet and I am sure you will too!

Everyone's journey is a bit different but we all understand each other, since we've got something in common.

Have you considered IUI or natural IUI (not IVF, but it is assisted and I think you can even have the insemination at home if you want).

Generally, I would recommend to take it one step at a time and try your best to focus on that - otherwise you will find yourself worrying and stressing about possible scenarios.

Good luck

Sorry I know this post is really old but I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry for you having such a tough time.

I am in a similar position, I can get pregnant but just lose the babies in first trimester. Seems pointless even trying as my babies always die (under 8 weeks). Investigations into recurrent miscarriages have all drawn a blank.

We're unlikely to be able to adopt either sadly😞