Hi, thank you for asking. I'm feeling drained and upset. I didn't get much sleep last night.
He started snoring awfully last night and has gone to sleep this afternoon.
He has problems with alcohol which he will never admit and therefore would never seek help. It would be too much of a risk for me to suggest that to him.
I didn't realise how bad until I moved in with him, just before lockdown started. I sold my place, I left my job, I moved to his city. We were going to sell his place as well and find a place to live that was in-between both our workplaces. That didn't happen.
He has a work friend who is dependent on meeting up with him to drink. In lockdown they were doing this in the guy's garage, even when we were in tier 3. I think he's the source of when I was sick with covid symptoms.
The guy has a double detached garage that he practically lives in.
I think lockdown disrupted their routine.
He was finding a reason to go to this guy's place during lockdown every few days and coming back drunk.
His aggressivness is typically in the lead up to meeting with this guy and after coming back. It happens every 2-3 days.
The guy is not a particularly pleasant person. His wife is trying to divorce him. He hates women, resents his two teenage daughters. So, needs a drinking partner. He wanted my husband to move next door to him.
My husband promised me he wasn't drinking. Clearly he was and is in secret. Or not as secret as he thinks.
He really scared me again last night. I didn't know how he was going to be this morning.
His behaviour switches between being aggressive and the person I thought he was.
I don't feel supported by him at all during this time. He is not going to attend counseling. He is very careful to not let people hear how aggressive he is . He denied he drinks on the medical forms we filled out.
With the neighbours, if we're out in the garden, and he switches, he very quietly tells me to go inside so he can shout at me.
I'm trying to rest today.