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Soloflamingo · 13/07/2021 07:00

Hi
I hope this is ok for me to put here.
I’m several years past fertility treatment and still struggling a bit with the fallout of it.

One of the things I’m finding hard is that although DH was more present for the first cycle, the second cycle I did more or less alone. I went to all the egg checking appointments (which is fair enough because he was working and I was back and forth every day for about a week) but I also went to embryo transfer on my own and the follow up appointment where they do the pregnancy test (negative, but I already knew that) and talk about what might have ‘gone wrong.’
I feel let down and still anxious about it even though it was several years ago now.
I suppose I’m asking - even though it doesn’t matter now - how supportive are your partners? Is it normal for partners to only go to the viral egg retrieval appointment?
Sorry if this is inappropriate for here. I’m still struggling with all this.

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Soloflamingo · 13/07/2021 07:09

Vital. God. Not viral.

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IndigoNC · 13/07/2021 08:15

@Soloflamingo sorry you are struggling with this. My DH only ever attended appointments where he absolutely had to be there. I was ok with this because the clinic was miles away from his work and the scan appointments were only a few minutes long so on balance I didn't feel it was necessary for him to come. I would call him as soon as I came out with an update. He was there for egg collection only and at the beginning when he needed blood tests and he did also attend the went wrong follow up

IndigoNC · 13/07/2021 08:16

*what went wrong follow up

Scirocco · 13/07/2021 09:12

Slightly different for me as it was during restrictions, but my DH wasn't allowed to attend any appointments other than the pre-treatment appointment where they needed a blood sample from him - not even egg retrieval. It was hard, especially for him as it meant he was rather excluded from the process.

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