Telling people after embryo transfer

[Infertilitywarrior]

Hi everyone, so I recently got my bfp after my first FET. I'm a talker and found it nice to have so many supportive people around me and I found myself talking about our journey with lots of people. Now I talked so much that people knew around what time each stage was happening, I've got a big mouth and it just kept coming out 😂 now my question is what on earth do I tell all these people that are now going to ask how it went? Do I tell them I can't say anything and they will probably guess its worked but is that bad luck? I'm so scared of jinxing anything but how do i go about answering people's questions without possibly blaming myself for jinxing it if things were to go wrong?
Thank you 😊

Ha I'm a fellow talker too! 🤣 congratulations on your BFP! To be honest I found that whilst I was open about IVF etc that most people didn't really understand the process so I would say if people asked "oh we won't know if it's worked for a few more weeks"

I found I needed as much support in the first trimester as I did during IVF, so I was quite open with my close friends about everything still from transfer (also a talker!). When it comes down to it, talking to supportive friends is not going to be the thing that causes something to go wrong - but it might be the thing that helps if something does go wrong and you need a shoulder to cry on!

However, I DID tell some people (and family!) that we were in another 'waiting stage' before the transfer so that we were able to surprise them with our positive result when we were ready :) there's so much waiting in IVF already that I think they expected to hear something in a year's time rather than a few weeks later!

I've never understood why people don't tell others about pregnancy before 3 months. God forbid things don't turn out well, you'd want their support anyway. So either way they might aswell know. Congrats!

Congratulations! You don't have to tell anyone about it yet, it's too early, but if you do spill the beans it will definitely not jinx anything. It just doesn't work that way, that is sheer superstition.

I had a very similar dilemma. I had a positive test but it was faint and my HCG blood test was a bit Low. I was so anxious waiting for the 7 week scan. Like you we’d told quite a lot of friends and family so we didn’t try and hide it but said it was very, very early and the test didn’t look good so we’d let them know after the scan. I was petrified and couldn’t seem to say ‘I’m pregnant’, felt like a fraud. I do remember my mother in law after the scan asking if they were allowed to get excited yet and I said yes!
After the scan I felt a lot better and I am now nearly 10 weeks, still a bit anxious but I’m now googling pregnancy/baby stuff and not miscarriage statistics and symptoms!
Congratulations! Remember it’s more likely to work out than not, once you get to the scan and have a heartbeat it really is the vast majority that go on to have a baby. I think after infertility we’re all so used to bad news it’s really hard to accept it may all be positive from now on.
Best of luck!

Thank you all for your advice it's amazing how asking on here has helped with the anxiety of it all and the wondering what's right or wrong. We have told some close friends and family as they were eagerly waiting to find out but have also said its very early. And as you all say they are our support so if things work out they are there for the joy and if things don't they are there for the sorrow too
Thanks again xx

Oh my gosh me too! I Google statistics almost daily, or I Google things to help, things to not do, will this happen will that happen it's constant anxiety 😂😭
And yes after infertility and the battles we have already been through I'm scared to be happy or excited as we have been heartbroken so many times
I'm trying to take each day as it comes and just look after myself
Congratulations by the way! Xx