Ivf 2ww and been told my sister is 4 months pregnant

[Rdaisyleo]

Been trying for 5 years. Just done IVF and now on the last week of the 2ww and my sister came around yesterday to say shes 4 months pregnant.. now she didn't want to tell me until next week but apparently some gossips know and my mum has panicked her into telling me now.... I don't know what I feel right now. But now I'm worried that me over thinking this is going to potentially ruin this cycle but I can't stop thinking about it... before I knew this I was okay with the idea of this cycle not working and I was feeling brave enough to carry on but right now the idea of this cycle not working , I feel like it's going to absolutely break me... I don't why I'm posting.. for advice or if anyone else has been through this maybe? Thanks ladies x

She’s nearly half way thru her pregnancy why didn’t she tell you sooner.. I told people at literally 6 week (ivf so knew how far I was) but people usually tell others at 12 week
Have you done a test ? x

@shazzz1xx i think she didn't say sooner because I told my mum and sisters at Christmas that we were going to be having IVF as we're struggling so I'm guessing that's why.. shes pretty reserved my sister, my mum didn't know until 2 weeks ago. No I've not done a test yet as I don't want to get a false negative, the nurses said wait until June 6th to test, so I'm doing that

@Rdaisyleo so sorry that is really hard to deal with especially during 2ww, I haven't had a pregnancy announcement in the immediate family yet but feel like it's only a matter of time.

What's your relationship with your sister like? It sounds like she was trying to protect you by not saying anything sooner. If you have a good relationship with her maybe telling her you're really happy for her, still want to be included in things/updates but might not always be able to reply as you sometimes need a break from all things related to pregnancy and babies whilst you're going through the IVF. Hopefully she will understand.
I don't think a few days of overthinking will affect the outcome of your IVF, try not to worry in this regard but I know from personal experience this is much easier said than done! I would try to take things one day at a time for now, focus on things that help you feel relaxed/happy and take time for self care over the next few days xxx

I was in a very similar situation: my SIL announced she was 8 weeks during my 2ww. My DP's family didn't know about our IVF though.

Like you, I was feeling like I would cope with it not working (it was my first cycle and I had blasts frozen) but as soon as I found out, a wave of desperation came over me and I felt immediate pressure. The thought of all the pregnancy and baby talk and knowing my life would be full of it if my ivf failed wasn't relaxing at all. I feel for you

The worry didn't stop my IVF from working though, and if yours doesn't work, that won't be the reason, so try to put that aspect out of your mind. But I think it would make a BFN more difficult. I really hope you get your BFP and don't have to deal with it 🤞