1st missed miscarriage looking for guidance on what to expect

[dano99]

Hi guys,

Never thought I'd be writing such a post but here I am. Unfortunately had a missed miscarriage. I'm 8w but everything seems to have stopped about 4-5 I only had a yolk sac present no embryo. Which in some way I'm trying to find comfort in the fact a "heart never beat". But still. It's shit. I'm not due back to epu until next week for treatment plan but she said I might start to naturally miscarry due to some spotting and consistent (not painful) period like cramps for about 4 days now. My pregnancy symptoms are definitely pretty non existent so I think my body has started to realise it's not "pregnant" anymore.

Questions are, how likely will my body start to naturally miscarry? - any ways to help it start or any first signs it might happen? Has anyone got experience with a medicated miscarriage? And last result what's an mva like? I REALLY don't want mva. I don't want to be awake for a procedure like that.

Thank you! and I'm so sorry to anyone who's ever had first hand experience. I can't even begin to imagine what it feels like to go through this multiple times :(

Hey @dano99 really sorry this has happened to you. I was told I could either wait for it to happen naturally - but I was on ivf meds so would have taken a while. I opted for medical management although I didn’t really have a choice as surgical wasn’t offered due to covid. Medical management is unpleasant (it’s a lot more than a heavy period) but it’s the safest option. I hope you can naturally miscarry soon and you recover quickly. It took me about 10 days for bleeding to stop. Hope this helps xx

I'm sorry for your loss @dano99 ❤️ I've had 2 MMCs where I passed them naturally (measured around 6 weeks, passed at 9ish). I wasn't on any meds to support the pregnancies.

I had another MMC where the baby stopped growing at 6+5 and was on progesterone. I stopped that around 7 weeks and had medical management at 9+3 I found this less physically painful than my other 2, I passed everything whole about 8 hours after taking the tablets. I asked the nurse to put them in which was pretty traumatic, but I think she got them in the right position.

For all of them, I found I wanted to be near the bathroom. I used the microwave heat pads and alternated painkillers and it was manageable.

I felt the same about the mva. None of the options are ones we'd want to choose from. Sending you lots of love xx

@JandL2020

Hey *@dano99* really sorry this has happened to you. I was told I could either wait for it to happen naturally - but I was on ivf meds so would have taken a while. I opted for medical management although I didn’t really have a choice as surgical wasn’t offered due to covid. Medical management is unpleasant (it’s a lot more than a heavy period) but it’s the safest option. I hope you can naturally miscarry soon and you recover quickly. It took me about 10 days for bleeding to stop. Hope this helps xx

So sorry to hear you've experienced a mc ❤️ I definitely hope for natural and second to that medical management. Just hope it all passes soon. I think I'm struggling more with the "waiting game" than anything else. I just want to know my body is back to my body and we can start again xx

@VenusStarr

I'm sorry for your loss *@dano99* ❤️ I've had 2 MMCs where I passed them naturally (measured around 6 weeks, passed at 9ish). I wasn't on any meds to support the pregnancies.

I had another MMC where the baby stopped growing at 6+5 and was on progesterone. I stopped that around 7 weeks and had medical management at 9+3 I found this less physically painful than my other 2, I passed everything whole about 8 hours after taking the tablets. I asked the nurse to put them in which was pretty traumatic, but I think she got them in the right position.

For all of them, I found I wanted to be near the bathroom. I used the microwave heat pads and alternated painkillers and it was manageable.

I felt the same about the mva. None of the options are ones we'd want to choose from. Sending you lots of love xx

So sorry to hear you've had multiple experience with mc, must be so heart wrenching ❤️

I hope you don't mind me asking, but how to they place the tablets? I was Imagining they just pop it into the vagina but do they actually push it into the cervix? Xx

I'm so sorry you are going through this it's such a horrible feeling. I must have been the same as you when I had my missed miscarriage. I had a scan at 8 weeks where she told me it was just an empty sac.
I opted to wait for 2 weeks for it to happen naturally which it didn't. I then went to the EPU where they offered medical or surgical which I opted for medical. The nurse inserted the tablets and then I had to lie there for 30 minutes then they let me go. This was probably around 4pm I started getting cramping around 8/9 which just got worse. About 2am I woke up in a lot of pain and went to the toilet. This is when it passed and the cramping got better and then had a really heavy period for about 4/5 and slowed down after then and stopped about 7/8 days later. My next period arrived 5 weeks after. Hope this helps. X

Yes @dano99 they do put the tablets up near the cervix, so I had 4 in, 2 at a time. It was quite firm and not pleasant but I don't think I'd have got them in the right place if I'd tried myself. I hope you're not waiting too long xx

Really sorry OP. I had an MVA a few years ago, I had a lot of bleeding and an early scan confirmed the baby had died at 7 weeks, but I didn’t have any cramping and despite the bleeding wasn’t actually passing the pregnancy naturally, so they recommended an MVA. It was uncomfortable but not painful. It was emotionally horrible of course and that was the main thing, but everyone was absolutely lovely and it was over very quickly. Hope you’re ok OP.