The investigation starts....

[MrsNewms85]

So after 14 months of trying and one chemical pregnancy, an investigation has been started about why me and my husband haven't yet managed to conceive. So far they found they don't think I'm ovulating regularly if at all and that I have low iron. I already have a child from a previous relationship so know that it can happen, but that happened when I was 25, I'm now 35 and my husband doesn't have any children. We're now both just waiting for a referral letter but I honestly don't know what to expect next. Any experience or advice would be appreciated.

I would just bear in mind that because you have a child already they will only likely do the investigation part and not treatment - so day 21 bloods etc - maybe a scan or two and a special test. you wouldn't be eligible for IVF on the NHS (you MAY get clomid to help you ovulate but a lot of trusts won't give that either) so you may waste several months and then have to start again with A private fertility clinic

*sperm test

Good news you've started the ball rolling :) same advice really! A lot (if not all) funded IVF from the NHS isn't available if you have children already. There are some really good finance options though so if that's a route you end up going down there's lot of advice and help available!

Hope all works out for you 🥰

It depends on your CCG as to whether you will get IVF or further investigations funded. I have a child already but was eligible for IVF on the NHS as my husband had none. Start taking prenatal vitamin supplements if you haven't already and get your partner on wellman or similar as a start.

The basic investigations are blood tests for you, but maybe you've had those if they don't think you're ovulating regularly? A pelvic ultrasound to check your follicles and a HyCoSy to check your fallopian tubes. Your partner will need to do a sample to check his count.

From there depending on the results they will develop a plan for you. Even if there's nothing that they find wrong, you may need IVF or similar - plenty of us have IVF for unexplained infertility. The clinic that your GP has referred you to will know if you are eligible for NHS IVF or further investigations but you can google it yourself too.

Best of luck, this part is scary because you're worried about everything that might happen and everything's unknown but hopefully soon it will become clearer for you

Thanks all. I didn't think we'd be able to get IVF as although my husband doesn't have a child, I do, so guess it's just the wait to see what the clinic advises and I suppose what his tests come back as when he eventually gets them. Still awaiting referral letter from the clinic.
We have discussed adoption, should we get a negative answer and if I'm honest I think I would rather do that than IVF, have a couple of friends who have been through it and it sounds like a tough process. Although I wouldn't turn down medication to help get me ovulating properly. The joys of trying to get pregnant on your 30s