Heartbreak of TTC

[holdontotheaffirmative]

Just looking to see if there is anyone going through the same/similar thing.

We have been ttc for over 2 years now. I am blessed to have one dc, who arrived after 2 years of trying. I had hoped it might be easier second time around but sadly not and I feel drained. I was an emotional wreck before my dc arrived and I'm scarred because I can see myself spiralling again. I have close friends and family members who are pregnant and I feel repelled. How do you cope?

Sadly, IVF is not an option for me (my husband draws the line, for reasons that I respect). I'm 37 now and struggling to accept that it may well just not happen for us.

Sorry, this is a ramble. I know I am so lucky to have my dc. I'm just a little lost.

Hi @holdontotheaffirmative I saw your message and it struck a chord. I have a 2.5 year old and have been TTC #2 for approaching 18 months. I had a miscarriage at the end of last year which really finished me off! So I feel like I’m back to square 1.
I completely relate to feeling lost and being unable to process the possibility of being a family of 3. I’m 37 too and feel the pressure of time.
Have you had an tests etc?
I’m not really sure what I wanted to say just that I understand, I sympathise and I really hope it happens for us both x

Oh I feel you lovely, I’m nearly three years in TTC1 and it’s just so sad and so lonely at times.

I’m afraid I don’t have many words of wisdom but could you look into having some testing done even if IVF isn’t an option? Some women just need a little help ovulating or getting their thyroid to the right level, for example, so it’s not always IVF or bust. And also you’re still pretty young so hope is not all lost yet.

Hi @Kittie321, thanks so much for your response. Firstly I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I can't begin to imagine how hard that's been for you.

Truth be told, I didn't really know where
I was going with my post either. It's just lonely, isn't it?

Yes, I've had all the usual tests at the GP and I have my first return visit to the fertility clinic next week. I believe it's just exploratory to ascertain whether there are any physical problems that might hamper/prevent a further pregnancy, but it's something. What about you? Are you getting any assistance?

Yes, I'll second that- fingers crossed it happens for the both of us! X

@RiverRiot thanks so much for your post. I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, too. Yes, it is lonely, isn't it? My husband's been great,
but I don't think he really feels it to the same extent that I do and I don't know anyone else who is in this position.

Yes, I've had tests re ovulation and all the usual blood tests. Everything's been okay apart from a thyroid issue (and I have no idea why that is significant). First appointment at the fertility clinic next week. Are you getting any assistance? Will be hoping that it happens for you, too x

Lonely is the word! @holdontotheaffirmative Everywhere I turn people are announcing pregnancies and expecting an announcement to come from my husband and I.
Yes I’ve had some tests and do have some challenges. I’ve always had a short luteal phase and in addition it looks like I’ve got a lowish ovarian reserve. All physically fine tho.
I’ve just started letrozole. First round of clomid led to my pregnancy (and miscarriage) last year. So I live in hope it may work!
I think heading for tests is a really positive thing. It makes you feel a little more in control in what is a very uncertain situation. I really hope you get some answers or the comfort that there is nothing standing in your way - maybe just a little more time!! xx

Thank you @holdontotheaffirmative

Absolutely, I do think men deal with it differently, it took quite a while for mine to realise it wasn’t going to ‘just happen’.

I’m not entirely sure how the thyroid affects fertility myself but have heard that the Drs like it to be below a certain level, perhaps it’s something you could ask about at your appointment?

I’m currently having some tests retaken but think, given how long it’s been, we’ll end up going down the IVF route regardless of the results. It’s not what anyone wants really but here we are.

Good luck with your appointment, I hope you get some answers and have your long awaited DC2 in your arms soon. x