Secondary infertility

[laralou28]

Been ttc our second child for about 5 years. We had all the tests. Mine normal. Husbands Came back he had low sperm morphology. Referred to fertility clinic. They tested him again. Came back normal. I mentioned about I have 1 day periods. The consultant seemed concerned. Do I need a second opinion before paying thousands for ivf? Any advice welcome

Hello. I also have secondary infertility and found that my GP was rather lacking when it came to fertility knowledge. I’m sure others don’t find this but I did.
I spoke to a private clinic - first said straight to IVF. Got a second opinion and they recognised issues that had previously been categorised normal leading to clomid and progesterone. Upshot is they feel I need cycle support due to hormone imbalance but could get there without IVF.
Not a positive story yet as I sadly suffered a MMC on the first clomid cycle (now trying a similar drug instead) but I do feel more hopeful.
Upshot is I think it is worth speaking to someone, even if just for peace of mind.
Good luck

@Kitte321

Hello. I also have secondary infertility and found that my GP was rather lacking when it came to fertility knowledge. I’m sure others don’t find this but I did. I spoke to a private clinic - first said straight to IVF. Got a second opinion and they recognised issues that had previously been categorised normal leading to clomid and progesterone. Upshot is they feel I need cycle support due to hormone imbalance but could get there without IVF. Not a positive story yet as I sadly suffered a MMC on the first clomid cycle (now trying a similar drug instead) but I do feel more hopeful. Upshot is I think it is worth speaking to someone, even if just for peace of mind. Good luck

Hi Thanks so much for your reply. So sorry to hear about your loss. That's promising that you got pregnant though isn't it. Im sure it will happen again for you. Wish you all the luck. I'm definitely going to ask for a second opinion. The consultant seemed to point the finger at my husband and just told me I'm ok. Must be more they could look into.

Hi there i just saw this post and am in a similar situation. Tried a year and a half to conceive #2 now after miscarrying a year ago. They found in tests I was fine but my husband has 2% morphology. Everybody i know is either pregnant or had their 2nd babies now and its tearing me apart so some support from somebody in a simialr situation would be nice.

@Melds22 I am in a similar situation as you. Trying for no 2. My dd will be 5 in March. Feel so frustrated either someone in family or friend are announcing baby no 2.

Also this month I had a weird ovulation cycle. I tested on Clearblue and it kept showing no ovulation. I did have ovulation pain and discharge. So not sure why is it not showing on the test. Has anyone gone through this? Any advice?
Generally, I have no problems with ovulation.

@laralou28, @Kitte321, @Melds22 sorry to hear what you all are going through :(

It's so hard. My dd keeps asking about little bro or sis

I can imagine that must be so difficult. All my DDs little friends are having baby sisters or brothers and she keeps being so excited for them which breaks my heart as not long till she will be asking...I have so much regret choosing to travel young smd starting a family late as its definitely a factor I reckon.
I ovulate on Cd23 so wondering if thats a factor...
Sorry we're all going through this ladies, Sweden defo sounds like the place to be for fertility treatment!

Hi all.
Saw this post and 100% get it. I Conceived my first child first month of trying. Have been trying for no.2 for over 2 years and 1 unsucessful round of ivf. I just dont get it. How can my body change so drastically? We did have a very early loss after 1yr of trying and shorty after i found out i have an underactive thyroid. So had high hopes that that was the issue and once i started medication id get pregnant soon after. But a year later and still nothing. Hoping to start rd 2 of ivf in the next couple of months so fingers crossed.
My daughter like others, has been asking for a sibling, especially recently as we've had 3 new babies in the immediate family. I know she'd be an amazing sibling and it breaks my heart that i cant give her this.
Fingers crossed we all get that long awaited sibling soon

So sorry to hear what everyone is going through, it is truly heartbreaking month after month and very difficult to detach from.
@Queenoflondon I’ve never had that happen to be honest but perhaps check ovulation is happening? A day 21 test (you may have had it already) will confirm your progesterone levels.
Sorry to hear of your journey @Geep. With my first (2.5 years ago!) I got pregnant within 5 months. I’m now 18 months and 1 miscarriage in. Clearly I was lucky first time round. Huge luck with your IVF - I may well be headed there too if the letrozole doesn’t work in the next few months.
@Melds22 totally sympathise. I’ve had 2 pregnancy announcements (both second child) over Zoom in the last week. Incredibly difficult to offer congratulations while feeling completely gutted.

Hey all!
@laralou28 I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope everything will be better soon!
I do believe that you should see another specialist for sure! Get a 2nd and if needed a 3rd opinion. It is your body, your life, you deserve to check it.
Also, about ivf, have you considered travelling abroad to get the treatment? I am currently in the reasearch stage as well.

Hi everyone, we have unexplained infertility. My son was conceived in 2017 after 1 round of IUI and now we are 4 failed rounds of IVF in, i’m 39 have low ovarian reserve and just feel horrendous with it all. I feel a horrible pang of resentment, bitterness and sadness when I see people out and about with their children and feel awful for depriving my boy of a sibling. I just can’t accept the fact we may never have another child when its all we want.