Need a talking to

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I am unexplained secondary. Is there anyone in the same boat?

Having a really bad week and just need someone to agree how utterly rubbish it it xx

Well in a similar boat in that I have unexplained infertility, but had a baby through ivf and have been trying for a second since then, he’s 27 months now. I’ve had two failed frozen transfers since then (one a grizzly miscarriage) and about to start ivf again at the end of this month. And yes, it is utterly shit. Not as bad as unexplained for the first one, but still shit. How long have you been trying? Have you started investigations etc?
Oh, and I turn 40 this year, so the stats are not promising :(

I have 2 that were natural.

Been trying for 3 years now. After 18 months got pregnant naturally which ended in a long drawn out crushing MMC. It's now18 months ish on from that (trying for about 13 months) and nothing.

Also 40 this year.
Had everything tested privately.
He has top swimmers, I have great egg reserve.

It's just so shit I want to scream!!!!!!!

We have an almost 3yo daughter, been TTC now for 2 years 3 months, with nothing. We're both 26 years old, perfectly healthy, all tests so far come back normal range and now waiting for a referral (which has taken almost a year with covid and a GP who doesn't seem to care- as we have a child already). It is shit. AF arrived this week so of course feeling even worse than usual!
Can totally sympathise, would like some answers at least and we can't really afford to go private at the moment.

Same.
It's the no reasons that I can't deal with. I can go a few months where I cope ok and then it comes crashing back again.
Doesnt help that this month that I would have a one year old 😢

Yeah, my mind keeps drifting to the three month old I would have had if I hadn’t miscarried. And a good friend is pregnant too which is another strain. I’m on edge that the ivf clinics will close because of lockdown too and I won’t be able to start that again. Have just paid for another (final) round and my finances are in a dark place. I’m unemployed and applied for 18 jobs last year without success so feel just very very anxious all round.