Infertility at Christmas

[Youngatheart00]

It really sucks, doesn’t it? 😔

Everyone with their perfect family days on social media and in homes all across the country.

Not feeling festive at all.

I’m completely with you.
WhatsApp groups popping off with friends sending photos of their children, I’m avoiding social media today but the whole of December has been hard.

Sending you kind thoughts today, we will get through this. It’s one day.
I’m just trying not to put a dampener on ours and others days (even if that is hard!), trying my best to look for the positives x

I totally understand how you feel @Youngatheart00

I don’t have children. X2 rounds of IVF and I lost a baby a few weeks ago.

My partner and I are going to have a normal day. Turkey baguette for lunch and then swap pressies in the afternoon.

To top it all off Tier 4 like lots of people and our town was flooded yesterday. Not great but things will get easier for us all soon xxxxxxx

Yes! Feeling it harder this year than last.

Last Christmas I should have been pregnant from our only successful IVF but unfortunately i had a mm.
This Christmas I'm finding it harder because I keep thinking that i should have an 11 month old. Add to that this year my fil died, my siblings had significant health issues and while it may be minor in other people's eyes, my dog is after having multiple biopsies to assess for tumors.

I'm so over getting sent photos of other people's baby's in their Christmas outfits. And with covid restrictions i can't even enjoy the "perks" of being childless because we can't go anywhere or do anything.

With you all ❤️

It’s a beautiful sunny winters day but despite a champagne brunch (at home, obviously, t4!) I can’t get it together and be happy.

DH is in a foul mood too and I just want to cry. Every year for the last 8 years I’ve thought....‘maybe next year’

It doesn’t help that my sister is pregnant but the silver lining means I don’t have to see her.

@Youngatheart00

Same here, every year I start thinking it’ll happen or treatment will be a success but it just hasn’t.

In another life we’d have a seven year old and four year old. I get so sad this time of year thinking about them and the traditions we should be making.

Anyone feeling like this you aren’t alone ❤️

I’ve seen two pregnancy announcements on Facebook today too 🙄

@rainbowtea23 i think that's the big thing that people who haven't been through it don't get is that it isn't just about not having a baby, it's about the loss of the future you'd planned and the traditions you'd hope to make.

It really does suck! I was planning to escape to Devon for a few days but unfortunately covid put a stop to that. Being at home hasn’t been all bad - put on a brave face for my OH. I’ve been off social media - made mistake of just popping on fb then to just see an announcement straight away. I was fuming - she’s not even someone I know that well but fb must just know how to upset me! @UncleBrynsfishingtrip sending a
Virtual hug - think we lost ours similar time. I have been so up and down. I’ve decided to do some fundraising for the miscarriage association - it’s given me something to focus on but it’s been hard as I haven’t found the strength to tell all family members yet..when I told my nan she said “not more bad news”. I definitely agree with Christmas is mourning loss of future...I had in my head I would tell people I was 16 weeks pregnant today. Just makes me so sad. Me and other OH are trying naturally again until next year - going to focus on losing some weight (cliche I know) but I did feel better before ivf in September when I had lost a few pounds. But for now bring on the left over xmas food for the next few days xxx

@sillysmiles completely, my parents don’t understand and of course as they should be are obsessed with my nephew and niece but it’s the comments oh you’ll be next that break me inside. I know they mean well but it bloody hurts.

@JandL2020 ahhh yes I remember you from the IVF threads.
That’s a great idea about the fundraising.

We’ve just taken the tree down and I feel good as it’s less cluttered in the house and I’m ready to move on from Christmas!

@sillysmiles nothing is minor when it’s something important to you. Infertility is hard and it’s ok to feel rubbish especially after the year you’ve had. Do you have one or two close friends or people you can offload too?

Sending you all love and let’s be kind to ourselves. Xxxx

I’m with you. It’s absolutely crap. I’ve seen 4 pregnancy announcements online (one on Christmas Eve, two on Christmas Day and one today) and each one hurts a little more than the last. I should have just deleted the apps from my phone but I almost feel like I want to punish myself by continuing to check them.

I posted earlier on the thread about avoiding social media at Christmas, just posting here too to agree that Infertility sucks all the time but in an even greater way at Christmas. Hugs to all in this situation.

Totally with you. Especially when your other half is with his son and his ex for the day, when the two of you can't have the child you so desperately want.
It's shit.
Hugs to you all.

I agree with everyone that it sucks. 3 birth announcements and 2 pregnancy announcements over the past 24 hours. Countless family photos babies in Xmas outfits, just wondering if I'll ever get to experience anything like that. In a way with covid whilst it's easier not to see people it's also much harder to distract yourself, I've deleted social media and reinstalled multiple times since I started TTC, but currently I just have nothing to do if I delete it!

Thinking of you all, it is nice knowing I'm not alone but really sucks and is so unfair we are even in this situation in the first place.

Take care everyone xxx