Lost baby at 9 weeks

[magpiecounter]

Our final ivf round worked but we found out today that we have lost the baby. His heartbeat wasn't there when she looked this morning. She said to stop my ivf medication and let nature take it's course. The baby was measuring behind from the start. She measured him at 8 weeks so he died a week ago.

I don't want to bleed at Christmas. Does anyone know how long it will take to start? Maybe I should keep the medication going till Christmas Day and that way it'll happen after Christmas.

@magpiecounter I am sad to read this, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sending you much love. The progesterone you are on (pessaries?) will be maintaining the lining of your womb and stopping you from bleeding at the moment. I guess you could continue them for a few extra days to cover Christmas. When you stop them you will eventually have a bleed, although this will be unpredictable - could be a few days or several weeks? Can you ask your clinic for advice? I'm sure they would be sympathetic and understand. Again I'm so sorry this Christmas will be so tough xxx

@magpiecounter I haven't been in this position, so can't offer advice, what bicyclesandbeyond said make sense though. Make sure you call your clinic's out of hours number if you're worried about anything medically over the bank holidays.

Just wanted to say how sorry i am to read this, just awful, no other words for it. Take care as much as you can x

Sorry to hear this. Same happened to me. Heartbeat visible at 8 weeks,measuring slightly behind but they said nothing to worry about. Sadly, no HB at 9 week scan. Stopped meds. Was due to go in after 5 days to take meds to bring on miscarriage after 5 days but bleed started after 4 days but i believe it's different for everyone. I'd also recommend asking the clinic for advice. It's a sad process, take care of yourself.

@Galgal15 if I stop medication now will I still be ok for Christmas? I don't want to start miscarrying on Christmas Day.

Does it take a long time? The hospital want me to go in and take tablets to cause the miscarriage so it's controlled. I don't know what is better for trying again.

I'm so sorry. It's devastating news at any time and completely understand you don't want to be bleeding over Christmas. I think like the others have said that your clinic should be best able to advise you.

Although i started on my own, they gave me the tablets anyway to make sure everything was cleared. It took about 5 days and physically wasn't much worse than a normal period but obviously harder emotionally.
That happened me in September. Clinic told me i needed one normal cycle before trying again. I had a period in Oct though i know for some people it takes a few months for cycle to return. I then did an FET with Nov cycle. That one was chemical unfortunately so it's been a tough few months.
But as i say, i think i was relatively fortunate in that it happened quickly and cycles returned quickly, that isn't necessarily standard. I hope the clinic can help with some professional advice.

Hi @magpiecounter I'm so sorry for your loss. I was in a similar position back in August and it is devastating.

My clinic suggested I keep taking the progesterone (just cyclogest morning and evening - I stopped injections) until surgical management to "keep it in tact". I did that and didn't bleed although I've no idea if I would have anyway.

So you could maybe keep taking cyclogest until 27th maybe.

I'm so sorry again xxx