When did you 'believe' you were pregnant after IVF?

[BananaHammock23]

Just that really. I finally got my BFP on Saturday after having IVF and I feel a bit... underwhelmed? Obviously I am thrilled but I feel so terrified that it's going to go away that I'm ruining it for myself and my partner.

I had a beta blood test on Monday and had the pregnancy confirmed this morning. I'm also paying for an additional blood test tomorrow to see if the hcg levels are going up to try and get some peace of mind.

Just wondering when you trusted that you were pregnant and really believed it? Does this feeling ever go away?

Never for me.. even when I had my girl (17month ago) it was an all new fear of losing her even after she was born.. crazy x

Sounds like I better get used to it  @shazzz1xx

It’s sad we don’t really enjoy the pregnancy for fear unlike someone down street who can have as many as they want x

Congratulations too.. what was your beta number ? And is it your first round x

@shazzz1xx so true! It's so hard to just believe it. I've never had a positive phone call from the clinic before so when they rang this morning I was in shock!

It was our first round of IVF after two cancelled IUIs where I didn't respond to medication. So it feels like it's been a long road. My hcg is 256, but I can't resist checking it's going up. I just don't believe it!

256 is brill.. mine was 205 and I had a prefect pregnancy with a perfect baby.. now I’ve been there and done it I wish I had not worried all of the 9month so all I can say is chill aliitle if you can.. because if I knew then what I know now I would of lol..
good luck x

I spent £100s on tests haha I’d do 5 a day just to compare lines and darkness now I wish I hadn’t av done
What we do ay 🙄 x

Thanks so much @shazzz1xx that's really reassuring! I kept saying I'd relax once I'd had it confirmed by blood test, now I'm saying I'll relax when I've had the second blood test and know my hcg is doubling! I know I need to chill but it's so hard x

My son is 10 months old and I still don’t quite believe it’s real, like he will be taken away at any moment

How did it go today with bloods 🤞🏼

Never. I didn’t ever believe there would be an actual baby at the end of it. It was a strange detached feeling and when I went for scans I couldn’t equate what was on the screen in front of me with being something inside me.

I'm 7+4 today after a long IVF road and many rounds that didn't work and feel as @EarlGreyT has described so far. Hoping that might change as things (hopefully) progress!!

My ivf DC is 6 now and I still don't belive it

Honestly? I probably took me until he was 6 months to really believe I had done it, sadly failed ivf in early 2019, and sometimes it feels unreal he even came to be.

I agree with PP, I long to be able to be happy about pregnancy and the trying x

Bloods went well thanks @shazzz1xx - I'm up to 752 so more than doubled which is crazy!

@EarlGreyT I feel as if I might be like this too. It's too much to comprehend that the end is a baby, and not just a potential pregnancy!

Congrats @TheGlitterFairy - when's your first scan? I'm having one at 8 weeks and feel like maybe I'll believe it after that?!

Haha @Hiccupiscal it sounds like I'm going to be feeling like this for a long time! I think IVF has so many chances to go wrong that I never got my hopes up to protect myself but I've kind of ruined the good bits for myself bc I'm riddled with disbelief!

brilliant news.. I knew it would be :) x

My ds is 6 months. I think I always considered 'pregnancy' to be the goal - some sort of magical holy grail state that I wanted so badly for myself. It's only when I got pregnant (ivf) that I realised it's a baby I want, not a pregnancy!

Now he's here, I think I hold him tighter because he was so desperately wanted and not easy to come by. Honestly, I still can't believe my luck! Even when I was having him, there was a feeling of dread that it wouldn't work out for us. Infertility leaves deep scars even when it works out in the end.

Not all bad though. I don't take him for granted and he has brought me more happiness than I could have even known to wish for! Hopefully you'll experience that feeling too. Congratulations! X

After the early 8 week ish scan I started to believe it might actually happen for us but it wasn’t until well after the 12 week scan when I started to look pregnant that it really sunk in.

Even now I look at my daughter and find it hard to believe science is so amazing

That's so lovely @Yokey - you're so right about the pregnancy thing! It's a baby I want and it seems so, so far away. After a year of treatment it just hasn't sunk in. I'm 6 weeks on Friday and then it's only a few weeks until my 8 week scan so I'm hoping at some point I'll start to believe it!

@ireallyamthewalrus I'm counting down the days until our 8 week scan!! I think you're right, I'll start to believe it when I can see it. At the moment I have no symptoms so it's hard to trust that my body is doing it.

Hi @BananaHammock23 sorry for delayed response!! I had my first scan at 7 weeks and there was a strong heartbeat/ they were happy with the measurements. I have another one on Tuesday and will be 9+2 then. It’s an early 10 week scan that the consultant is doing as a bonus / extra as it was quite the journey to get here and I think he wants to make sure he never sees us again 😂
Booking appt first week in Jan so it does all seem to be happening!! I’ll be pleased to get to the 12 week point - I realise there are no guarantees but it’s a mile marker!!

Did you have your 8 week scan? I hope all went well!

@TheGlitterFairy that's great news you must be thrilled! Amazing that you're getting so many scans in as well.

Our 8 week scan isn't until 5th January. Because we had IVF privately I could've actually had it at 6/7 weeks but because of Christmas I've had to wait. In a way it seems like a blessing because at least by then the baby will be big enough to really see something. I'm starting to feel sick now so starting to believe it!

How are you feeling? Did you get any sickness etc?