Hi Guys
I’ve been married over ten years and been suffering from vaginismus for almost as long, originally as I was struggling to lose my virginity whilst dating and all my relationships would fizzle once it was clear I couldn’t do the deed.
with my now husband my vaginismus was used as a ‘religious so want to wait until married’ as I was a church going Catholic it was a good cover.
Ten years later and still no better and after getting over the guilt, shame and feeling worthless and with a help of a new GP I’ve started to see green sprouts of optimism in my quest for a baby and maybe even full penetration.
My GP was waiting on my husbands semen analysis to make a referral... then the optimist I started to become had me reverting to pessimism.
So my husband had a bad semen test and needs to be repeated. This is after three months for the new semen to be produced, ugh!
My GP who I recently registered with, is still going to be making a referral for me to the fertility unit as I have vaginismus and can’t have penetrative sex and I’m close to 40 so waiting for a repeat analysis to be done (husband never registered with new GP when we moved in the summer) is not ideal given my age.
I wanted IUI which is what she’s asked for me to be considered for but she has stated it’s most likely IVF especially due to husbands semen analysis and age, they will refuse and instead ask me to be referred for ivf instead.
So I have a few questions:
As I’m being asked for IUI and due to semen count and age, does this mean I have to get a second referral to an IVF clinic if I’m not suitable for iui....or is the fertility referral the place that deals with both and will decide on course of action?
Secondly, what a rough time scales for iui/ivf wait? My GP said I’ve waited a decade so to remember that whilst waiting for a referral. This really shocked me as I thought I would be starting the new year with new diet, an acupuncturist and ready for my baby.
In fact I have started acupuncture mainly to regulate cycles and help with my poor digestion.
Third and final question, has anyone done iui/ivf whilst suffering vaginismus and how the hell did you survive something going up?