Feeling less alone

[ABC222]

Hi all, not really expecting any replies but wanted to say how helpful this infertility thread is. Been nearly a year trying to conceive and have realised reading this thread is probably better for me mentally than the conception one. I have a phone appointment booked with my GP for this month and will be asking for the blood test and husband will be speaking to his GP also.

I'm 34 and never anticipated the possibility of having fertility problems at the start of this baby making journey back in January but feel more prepared to accept this journey could be taking a detour. I was hoping when we started TTC we might have a baby before Christmas...how wrong was I! The sadness is real and raw but this thread has made me feel less alone. Staying present and holding the hope. Good luck to all of you.

Hi @ABC222 I could have written your post myself 2 years ago when I was 32 and a year of TTC with no baby. Now facing into my 3rd Christmas since we started trying with no pregnancy/baby. I too found this board invaluable and I’ve learnt so much and still am learning from all the wonderful women here.

Please feel free to come back with any questions once you’ve gotten tests and spoken to your GP! Good luck!

Good luck @ABC222 for you as well! I was the same and never thought I would need IVF and found it really hard to accept at first especially when our initial appointment was cancelled due to covid and it seemed I was hearing pregnancy announcements left right and centre!
Seeing these threads and speaking to women who have gone through so much anguish and setbacks and come through it has honestly been amazing how strong you all are and it's helped me feel less alone too as I didn't know anyone in my position x

Thank you @ForeverAintEnough I think I definitely will be coming back with questions. Sorry to hear about what you are going through too. I spent so long on the pill trying not to get pregnant at the 'wrong' time and who knew it was so blooming difficult!

Thank you @Roo45 the pregnancy announcements are the worst...I feel genuinely happy for my friends/ family but also so sad for me and my husband. Been a few tears. I agree it's not something people talk about.

I really hope you get your initial appointment soon and wishing you so much luck with it. x

@ABC222 infertility is horrible, but its even sweeter when it's overcome. I don't see it as a hurdle, I see it as something to look forward too and something to aim and hope for.

It can be lonely especially when you see so many pregnancy announcements but that's their time. Your time will come when its right for you!

Hi, I also come here to find support. It is nice to share the journey with others. It is definitely a bunch of people who can appreciate the miracle of fertility more than most. And I understand your feeling about Christmas!

I do wish there was more support for purely MFI however; I cannot find anyone to talk to. Even our GP and local hospital have very little experience with it, to the extent where we have been sent to the wrong specialists! Feeling a bit desperate at the moment that I don't have access to anyone to ask questions. Advice on more niche online groups appreciated..

Hi @AnonymousXXIX you should ask on here and look through old threads. We have male factor as (one of!) our issues if you want to ask anything/start a thread you will get those who have experience of this area.

@ABC222 Good luck, i have also found this forum invaluable for info and support. My clinic are quite helpful, but there is nothing better than hearing the experience of others.

One thing i can say is that age is on your side and i wish i had reached the IVF decision sooner, rather than going through this at 41. As tough as Christmas will be, let's hope 2021 is going to be better on so many levels.