Unexplained infertility & time running out

[LadyGuinevere78]

I am tired. So tired. Went to my GP at 37. But he procrastinated tests & told me I had until 40. Finally got to specialist when 40, yes 3 years later! And was told no longer qualified for IVF etc as need to be referred by 39. Complained & after 6 mints got an apology & was told the surgery would have a learning session to ensure someone were referred by 38. HOW DID THAT HELP ME?!?!
Now everyone I know seems to get pregnant. Without trying, or oh said we will try & couldn’t believe got pregnant first month.... are you doing it right. I have so much anger & frustration. And now we are at a point where sex is only to get pregnant & my hubby has lost is sex drive. I can’t say I blame him. But I’m so sad all the time. And now I’m drinking because I’m depressed & it’s a never ending cycle. I can’t even scrape together 3k to have IVF because I had to ‘retire’ at 34 due to ill health (ME)

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. :( Is there the option to appeal to your CCG if the GP surgery did not refer at the correct time?
I don't know too much about funding packages others might know more I think some exist but I don't know how much you end up saving.
Counselling, talking with others- are those options for you?
Thinking of you xx

I would recommend appealing to the CCG - from what you've written, an error by your GP surgery has led to you not receiving access to treatment which should have been made available to you. There's a case to be made that the CCG should provide funding to give as close as possible to parity of care as you would have received had the referral been made appropriately.

I don't know about your financial circumstances but there are packages for funding and ways to spread the cost which might be an option - maybe speak to some of the more "no-frills" clinics and see if they could help? (That's what I think I'll be doing if the NHS doesnt come through for me).

Thank you so much for your advice. I did try initially to complain & got a standard reply. But I will try again with a bit more gusto after your suppprt. Much appreciated both x

@LadyGuinevere78 best of luck.
A thought just came to my mind and I don't know how you would feel about it or if/how it would work but could you speak to your local MP about it too and maybe more weight would be attached to your appeal/complaint? xx

You’re probably aware but lots of IVF clinics offer payment plans if that was an option.